Ask Aviva

Aviva Rizel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. She specializes in couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a scientifically sound model that has transformed relationships around the world at rapid pace. To find out more about EFT, check out iceeft.com. To reach Aviva, call 347-292-8482 or email AvivaRizel.mft@gmail.com.

Ask Aviva: Watching the Climb

June 24, 2015, by

My husband is a really hard worker and set out to reach certain career goals. I encouraged him to do so because I wanted him to feel successful and I also wanted to be able to maintain a certain standard of living for our family. He has since met that goal a long time ago. I was

Ask Aviva: Selfless Summer

June 17, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I am a teacher in a special education school and look forward to the summer every year. My job takes a lot out of me, but it is also very gratifying. One of the things that get me through the year is anticipating my summer vacation. The problem is that year after year the

Ask Aviva: No Thanks to Therapy

June 11, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I am writing to you because some people told me that I need to go to therapy, but I am not so sure. I have had some pretty bad things happen to me early on in life and they were never addressed in therapy. I don’t think they need to be; I am

Ask Aviva: Solo Savta

June 4, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I have reached the “empty nest” stage with my husband. I’ve always looked forward to the days when I would be able to have my adult children with their kids for yomim tovim. While my dreams have mostly been met—I am blessed to have all four of my children married with children of their own,

Ask Aviva: Sister-Inner-Circle-In-Law

May 28, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My sister-in-law is asking me for marital advice. I guess you could say that we’re closer than most—so much so that she is sharing with me some of their largest issues. She even asked my advice in getting past my brother’s stubbornness, as well as how she can become more involved in their

Ask Aviva: Financial Fights


May 14, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My wife and I are having somewhat of a debate concerning bank accounts. We are newly married and I was always under the impression that a married couple should share a bank account, but my wife is insistent that she have her own separate bank account in addition to our joint one. I

Ask Aviva: Muted Morah

April 30, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I feel kind of silly writing in about this issue. I am in the chinuch field and teach in an elementary school. I am asked every now and then by my shul and by some community leaders to give a shiur or speak at an event. I always refuse. It is very nice

Ask Aviva: End of the Line

April 16, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My husband and I separated a few months ago. I was the one who initiated it and he was very against it. I was thinking about getting a divorce and now I am not so sure. I am very happy with the separation but I still want to work on things. He, on

Ask Aviva: No Mojo

April 1, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I am a fashion designer who is more of a seamstress. I just don’t know how to be ambitious. I look at all these other designers who seem so cool and put their work out there and I sit and think—wouldn’t that be nice? Then I go watch a show or chat on

Ask Aviva: Nervous with Neat

March 19, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I am getting the pre-Pesach jitters, but not for the reason that you think. We actually go away for the entire yom tov, so I don’t need to worry about cleaning. What I am worried about is what will happen when we go away. We will be staying in my parents’ house for