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Aviva Rizel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. She specializes in couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a scientifically sound model that has transformed relationships around the world at rapid pace. To find out more about EFT, check out To reach Aviva, call 347-292-8482 or email

Ask Aviva: September Blues

August 24, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My wife and I are dreading that camp is ending. Our 8-year-old daughter did so well in camp with her friends and was so, so happy. She is a drastically different child than when she is in school. Every year she suffers academically, and even though she is so social and popular in

Ask Aviva: Hating the Green-Eyed Monster

August 6, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I have a wonderful dear friend who is amazing in all ways except for just one. But that one is a biggie, as it is one of the Ten Commandments! My friend is a coveter. She covets the things in my home, my car, my style—you name it! At times I find it

Ask Aviva: Dreaming of Nefesh B’Nefesh

July 23, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I think I am in a really impossible situation… I caught the Aliyah bug but my husband is vehemently against it. He says we have our roots here, and we will have too much financial uncertainty. Plus, he says, the kids are too old and I should have thought of it earlier if

Ask Aviva: Modest Mommy

July 2, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I live in a neighborhood that is slightly less observant than we are. I like diversity so I am happy where I live. But our daughter is now eight-years-old and while she used to want to copy Mommy and dress very modestly — now she is pushing to dress more like her friends

Ask Aviva: Watching the Climb

June 24, 2015, by

My husband is a really hard worker and set out to reach certain career goals. I encouraged him to do so because I wanted him to feel successful and I also wanted to be able to maintain a certain standard of living for our family. He has since met that goal a long time ago. I was

Ask Aviva: Selfless Summer

June 17, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I am a teacher in a special education school and look forward to the summer every year. My job takes a lot out of me, but it is also very gratifying. One of the things that get me through the year is anticipating my summer vacation. The problem is that year after year the

Ask Aviva: No Thanks to Therapy

June 11, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I am writing to you because some people told me that I need to go to therapy, but I am not so sure. I have had some pretty bad things happen to me early on in life and they were never addressed in therapy. I don’t think they need to be; I am

Ask Aviva: Solo Savta

June 4, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I have reached the “empty nest” stage with my husband. I’ve always looked forward to the days when I would be able to have my adult children with their kids for yomim tovim. While my dreams have mostly been met—I am blessed to have all four of my children married with children of their own,

Ask Aviva: Sister-Inner-Circle-In-Law

May 28, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My sister-in-law is asking me for marital advice. I guess you could say that we’re closer than most—so much so that she is sharing with me some of their largest issues. She even asked my advice in getting past my brother’s stubbornness, as well as how she can become more involved in their

Ask Aviva: Financial Fights

May 14, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My wife and I are having somewhat of a debate concerning bank accounts. We are newly married and I was always under the impression that a married couple should share a bank account, but my wife is insistent that she have her own separate bank account in addition to our joint one. I

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