Life

Ask Aviva: Dater with Disabilities

August 28, 2014, by

Hi Aviva, I am a 24 year-old girl on the shidduch scene. I’ve got all the great qualities, bli ayin hara (smart, pretty, funny, Torah-valued) except for the unfortunate fact that I have a very visible physical disability [specific disability not mentioned to protect the anonymity of the writer]. It isn’t something that will prevent

Ask Aviva: Housemate for a Husband

August 20, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I grew up as part of a large, happy, healthy family and for some reason grew up very needy. My husband is not the gushy type and when he attempted to compliment me the first few times I brushed off the compliments. Since our first year of marriage, I can count the amount

Summertime: How Can We Manage Misbehavior?

July 10, 2014, by

It’s summertime and with it comes lots of down time. The best thing about the summer is that we loosen up our schedule. The worst thing about the summer is we loosen up our schedule. As you can see I have a love/hate relationship with routine. One of the toughest things about being helter skelter

Ask Aviva: Still Slim

July 10, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, Practically everyone in my life is pregnant except for me. I have been married for five years and have been trying to have a baby for four and a half. I have friends pregnant with their second and one just gave birth to her third! While I am happy for them, I feel

Tragedy in Israel

July 1, 2014, by

Dear Readers, It is with deep sadness and shock that I learned of the dreadful fate of our brothers, Gilad Shaar, Naftali Frenkel and Eyal Yifrach. I do not feel it is appropriate to give advice as I normally do in lieu of this heavy news. Instead, I am devoting my column to helping us

Ask Aviva: Seasonally Scared

June 18, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, School ends this week and camp doesn’t start up for nearly two weeks! I am going to be with all four of my kids, who are all different ages and personalities and I am starting to get really scared. I had saved up over the past few months to take them to different

Upstanders, Not Bystanders

June 11, 2014, by

In this week’s Parsha, Shelach, the Jewish people are preparing to enter the Promised Land and Moshe sends 12 spies to scout out the Land of Israel. Ten of the spies returned from their trip with extraordinarily large clusters of grapes, pomegranates and figs (think of the Kedem logo) and with only bad things to

Ask Aviva: Nay to Neighbor

May 28, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I need some guidance about an annoying neighbor—and it’s not what one might think. This neighbor is all of 4 years old and cute as a button, but is constantly ringing my doorbell to see if my 5-year-old wants to play. She is always outside unsupervised, riding her bike in the street (and

Ask Aviva: Desperately Desiring Vacation

May 20, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, My husband and I have been yearning for a break from our everyday lives for a while now. We just feel like escaping for a couple of days to get away from the daily stressors—jobs, kids, etc. We feel that it will really help our marriage and refresh us to better help with

Ask Aviva: Against Anger

May 13, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I read your response to Huffy Hubby, the newly-married husband whose wife was causing him to get angry. I am sorry but I must disagree with your advice: a. Chazal tell us that ‘Kol Hacoese Killoo oived Avodo zoro’ – ‘Anyone that loses his temper is like he served an idol.’ There is