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Ask Aviva: Financial Fights


May 14, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My wife and I are having somewhat of a debate concerning bank accounts. We are newly married and I was always under the impression that a married couple should share a bank account, but my wife is insistent that she have her own separate bank account in addition to our joint one. I

Ask Aviva: End of the Line

April 16, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, My husband and I separated a few months ago. I was the one who initiated it and he was very against it. I was thinking about getting a divorce and now I am not so sure. I am very happy with the separation but I still want to work on things. He, on

Ask Aviva: Chilled Chassan

March 12, 2015, by

I recently got engaged to a girl who I dated for a while. I know she is the one, but my family is starting to tell me that she is too critical and negative. I do see what they are saying, but it doesn’t bother me the way that it bothers them. I happen to have a

Still Single? Maybe Your Local Government can Help

February 2, 2015, by

The local council of Beit El has come up with an original way to deal with the bachelorhood issue in the community: The council has begun employing matchmakers to help single women start a family in Israel. The initiative was launched following the rise in the number of unmarried women aged 23 to 30. The

Too Smart to Get Married

December 23, 2014, by

I got a call from a fellow who said, “Rebbe, you have to help me.” “Sure, sure. What’s up?” I replied. “Well, I was set up with this girl, and I think that I’m going to fall for her.” “That’s great. So what’s the problem?” “What’s the problem? That’s the problem. She’s not what I’m

The Bashert Test

December 18, 2014, by

One of the greatest challenges in life is finding the balance between bitachon and histadlus—recognizing that HASHEM runs the world, yet actively doing our part. If this is difficult in many situations, it is much more so when it comes to choosing a spouse. The question is: what is the correct approach when dating? The

Why You Should Ruin Your Shidduch Chances

November 6, 2014, by

This post originally appeared on popchassid.com. Note: I am utterly unqualified to write this post. I just want to tell you what you already know, so that you understand I also know this. I went through the shidduch system very briefly, because my wife set herself up with me and we had known each other

Ask Aviva: Dater with Disabilities

August 28, 2014, by

Hi Aviva, I am a 24 year-old girl on the shidduch scene. I’ve got all the great qualities, bli ayin hara (smart, pretty, funny, Torah-valued) except for the unfortunate fact that I have a very visible physical disability [specific disability not mentioned to protect the anonymity of the writer]. It isn’t something that will prevent

Ask Aviva: Housemate for a Husband

August 20, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I grew up as part of a large, happy, healthy family and for some reason grew up very needy. My husband is not the gushy type and when he attempted to compliment me the first few times I brushed off the compliments. Since our first year of marriage, I can count the amount