Life

Too Smart to Get Married

December 23, 2014, by

I got a call from a fellow who said, “Rebbe, you have to help me.” “Sure, sure. What’s up?” I replied. “Well, I was set up with this girl, and I think that I’m going to fall for her.” “That’s great. So what’s the problem?” “What’s the problem? That’s the problem. She’s not what I’m

The Bashert Test

December 18, 2014, by

One of the greatest challenges in life is finding the balance between bitachon and histadlus—recognizing that HASHEM runs the world, yet actively doing our part. If this is difficult in many situations, it is much more so when it comes to choosing a spouse. The question is: what is the correct approach when dating? The

Why You Should Ruin Your Shidduch Chances

November 6, 2014, by

This post originally appeared on popchassid.com. Note: I am utterly unqualified to write this post. I just want to tell you what you already know, so that you understand I also know this. I went through the shidduch system very briefly, because my wife set herself up with me and we had known each other

Ask Aviva: Dater with Disabilities

August 28, 2014, by

Hi Aviva, I am a 24 year-old girl on the shidduch scene. I’ve got all the great qualities, bli ayin hara (smart, pretty, funny, Torah-valued) except for the unfortunate fact that I have a very visible physical disability [specific disability not mentioned to protect the anonymity of the writer]. It isn’t something that will prevent

Ask Aviva: Housemate for a Husband

August 20, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I grew up as part of a large, happy, healthy family and for some reason grew up very needy. My husband is not the gushy type and when he attempted to compliment me the first few times I brushed off the compliments. Since our first year of marriage, I can count the amount

Summertime: How Can We Manage Misbehavior?

July 10, 2014, by

It’s summertime and with it comes lots of down time. The best thing about the summer is that we loosen up our schedule. The worst thing about the summer is we loosen up our schedule. As you can see I have a love/hate relationship with routine. One of the toughest things about being helter skelter

Ask Aviva: Still Slim

July 10, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, Practically everyone in my life is pregnant except for me. I have been married for five years and have been trying to have a baby for four and a half. I have friends pregnant with their second and one just gave birth to her third! While I am happy for them, I feel

Tragedy in Israel

July 1, 2014, by

Dear Readers, It is with deep sadness and shock that I learned of the dreadful fate of our brothers, Gilad Shaar, Naftali Frenkel and Eyal Yifrach. I do not feel it is appropriate to give advice as I normally do in lieu of this heavy news. Instead, I am devoting my column to helping us

Ask Aviva: Seasonally Scared

June 18, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, School ends this week and camp doesn’t start up for nearly two weeks! I am going to be with all four of my kids, who are all different ages and personalities and I am starting to get really scared. I had saved up over the past few months to take them to different

Upstanders, Not Bystanders

June 11, 2014, by

In this week’s Parsha, Shelach, the Jewish people are preparing to enter the Promised Land and Moshe sends 12 spies to scout out the Land of Israel. Ten of the spies returned from their trip with extraordinarily large clusters of grapes, pomegranates and figs (think of the Kedem logo) and with only bad things to