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Sibling Rivalry: Teaching Kids to Respect One Another

November 18, 2014, by

This week’s parsha brings to light a recurring theme in Sefer Bereshit—sibling rivalry. We have seen it before with Kayin and Hevel, Yitzchak and Yishmael and now again with Yaakov and Esav. We all know the famous saying, “maaseh avot siman l’banim,” (the actions of the forefathers are a symbol or sign for the children).

Ask Aviva: Doubtful Dad

November 13, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, My son’s pediatrician diagnosed him with ADHD and I don’t know if I should medicate him or not. I really don’t want to but he is out of hand at home (better in school though). My wife is refusing. What are our options? -Doubtful Dad Dear Doubtful Dad, To officially be diagnosed as

The Growth Mindset: Praising Kids for Success

November 10, 2014, by

When I first read Faber and Mazlish’s book, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, I found the chapter on praise to be eye-opening. The authors cautioned parents to stop using evaluative praise and to use descriptive praise instead. Now I am reading another book on developing a growth mindset in our kids. Author Carol Dweck explains the differences

Managing Your Defiant Child

November 5, 2014, by

I know that when my children become defiant, my initial reaction is to lash out at them and get really angry. “How dare they!” I think. “After all I do for them, this is the way they talk to me?” My thoughts can go even further downhill, “I’ll make them do as I say! I’ll

How Can Parents Improve their Kid Communication?

October 27, 2014, by

In Parshat Lech Lecha, G-d tells Avraham to “Go from your land, from your birthplace and from your father’s house, to the land which I will show you.” Rashi says on this Pasuk: From your land: Now had he not already gone out of there with his father and come as far as Haran? Rather,

Ask Aviva: The Duped Parents

October 23, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, We have a darling son, age 6, who is so bright, articulate, and generally adorable. The problem is that he thinks he rules the roost. He thinks he is IN CHARGE, and I am fairly certain he can take down any hardcore lawyer with the way he can negotiate. He needs things to

Kids and Parents: Lost in Translation

October 21, 2014, by

In Parshat Noach, the Torah relates the story of Migdal Bavel. The sons of Noach decide to build a tower that will reach the heavens so they can defy G-d. As a punishment, G- d confuses their languages so that they cannot understand one another and they cannot work together. They need to go their separate

Strategies To Manage Your “Persistent” (Stubborn) Child

October 7, 2014, by

Ever have a child who digs in his heels when he doesn’t want to do what you ask him to do? What about the child who does not give up? The child who is outside in the backyard day after day until he has perfected that curveball? You might have what you call a “stubborn”

Ask Aviva: Feet Firmly Planted in Place

September 16, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, My husband might have to move for his law firm job in order to move up the career ladder. It would be a huge step up in his career and a big boost to his ego. However, I have planted our roots in our wonderful community of where we are now and the

Coping with the Back to School Blues

September 11, 2014, by

I recently received the following letter: My daughter is often complaining about her day in school. She seems to do well academically and has friends. She just seems to take things to heart and does not seem to be able to cope with life. I vacillate between saying, “You shouldn’t worry, you are smart and