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Ask Aviva: Roller Coaster of Love

July 14, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I don’t know what to make of my marriage. It seems bipolar! When it’s good, it’s unbelievably amazing. When it’s bad, it gets ugly and feels like Gehinom. I don’t think this is normal… What should I do? -Roller Coaster Ride Dear Roller Coaster Ride, Oy, this doesn’t sound like a fun ride.

Stop Summer Tantrums Before They Start

July 8, 2015, by

Does it seem like kids meltdown and tantrum more in the summer? It may be because of lack of sleep — no kids want to go to sleep when the sun is still out and bed times are usually pushed off. Meal times also aren’t on schedule — not to mention the never-ending heat and humidity.

The Stories You Should Tell Your Child This Summer

July 1, 2015, by

Two years ago, The New York Times featured an article written by Bruce Feiler that discussed the work of Marshall Duke, a psychologist at Emory University. Duke explored ritual and myth in American families and discovered something surprising: children who know a lot about their families and their histories tend to do better when they

A Note to Parents

June 16, 2015, by

Dear Parents: I appreciate your taking the time to read these thoughts.  I hope they will be helpful to you and to your family. The ideas discussed here are relevant twelve months a year.  I am especially moved to share them now, in the weeks leading up to the summer, as it is important to

Good Parenting: Why Threats Don’t Work

June 11, 2015, by

“You better do your homework or else!” “If you don’t get yourself into the car you are punished for life!” “You better march yourself into Mark’s room and apologize for calling him names or you can forget about going to Sara’s birthday party!” Does this sound familiar? Parents often resort to using threats with their

Sexual Abuse Prevention: Choosing the Right Words

June 10, 2015, by

This article first appeared on the blog for Baltimore Therapy Center. There is a difference of opinions out there as to whether it is important to use the proper names for private parts when teaching children about their bodies and discussing sexual abuse issues (i.e., not the latest news story but what they need to

Ask Aviva: Solo Savta

June 4, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I have reached the “empty nest” stage with my husband. I’ve always looked forward to the days when I would be able to have my adult children with their kids for yomim tovim. While my dreams have mostly been met—I am blessed to have all four of my children married with children of their own,

From a First-Time Mom

May 4, 2015, by

I’m a first-time mom, a title I proudly wear. We celebrated my daughter’s birthday this past March. It’s been an amazing year. This child—who spent her first five weeks of life attached to wires and monitors, under the careful watch of neonatologist specialists—has grown as a happy, curious child engaged in the world around her.

Eight Ways to Help You and Your Strong-Willed Child

April 30, 2015, by

A letter from a parent: Dear Adina We are parents of a three-year-old boy and nine-month-old girl. We love our three-year-old very much, but lately we are at a loss how to deal with him. He is defiant and out of control, he hits us when we tell him NO, and the house has become, at times,

Techniques in Childrearing #1

April 21, 2015, by

I’ll tell you a story. This story happened right around an hour ago. And I thought it was a good illustration of one of the principles I routinely teach about parenting, namely, distraction. With young children, distraction is usually the first choice for intervention techniques in high-stress moments. To wit: My wife just came out