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Techniques in Childrearing #1

April 21, 2015, by

I’ll tell you a story. This story happened right around an hour ago. And I thought it was a good illustration of one of the principles I routinely teach about parenting, namely, distraction. With young children, distraction is usually the first choice for intervention techniques in high-stress moments. To wit: My wife just came out

Can’t Get the Kids to Help with Passover Prep?

March 26, 2015, by

Passover is right around the corner and in Jewish homes across the world things are very busy. There is a lot of preparation, of the cleaning and the cooking variety that needs to be done. That means that Jewish parents around the world need lots of help. They turn to their kids and that is

Being a Present Parent While Falling Apart

March 24, 2015, by

I expected a lot difficult things in advance of getting divorced at age 28, as the mother of two small children. I expected my 5-year-old would have an adjustment period acclimating to life in two separate households, and I predicted lonely nights and holidays when my children were with their father, awkward looks from people

Watch Now: Purim Parenting Webinar

February 26, 2015, by

Last week’s Purim lunch break webinar was a great success, drawing viewers from around the country and in Israel as well. Didn’t get a chance to tune-in? Watch it now: We covered the following topics: Simple ways to protect your children from unsafe behavior Enabling your children and teens to make good decisions Teaching children and

Ask Aviva: Mezinka Mom

February 26, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I am almost embarrassed to write this email, because I know that my “problem” is a real blessing. I feel very selfish to complain about this, but I don’t think anyone would understand it if I said it out loud. My problem is that my daughter is getting married and while I have been davening

Raising Happy Kids: Let Them Be Sad

February 19, 2015, by

It is finally Rosh Chodesh Adar, Mishenichnas Adar Marbim Bsimcha. It is definitely a time for us to focus on happiness and what that really means for our family and our kids. When I was little girl I was a pretty happy kid. I didn’t get upset too often but when I did I wanted to be

Time to Drop “Never” from Your Conversations

February 4, 2015, by

My husband and I, way back when, were told in our premarital counseling session that when were in the throes of a disagreement we should avoid starting our sentences with “You never…” “You never take out the garbage!” We were told that “You never…” sounds like an accusation and puts people on the defensive. This can take

Teaching Our Kids to Empathize

January 20, 2015, by

In the past couple of parshas we read about Moshe, Aaron and Miriam caring for one another and working together. It is a beautiful example of what siblings can do if they get along! Unfortunately, as most parents know, siblings don’t always get along. Most siblings fight; they roughhouse, tease and belittle each other. In

Ask Aviva: Frowning Friend

January 8, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I have a very good friend with whom I hang out a lot. It used to work out really well when our children were still babies. Now that our boys are preschoolers I find that her son has grown to be quite a bully. No actual violence takes place, but he chases my son around

Parenting as a Team

January 7, 2015, by

Dear Adina,  I am trying to incorporate some of the new parenting skills but my husband undermines me. He is not on board at all. I find it very frustrating and I get really irritated with him. What should I do? Thank you so much for your question. I get this a lot from Moms. Here are