Time to Drop “Never” from Your Conversations

February 4, 2015, by

My husband and I, way back when, were told in our premarital counseling session that when were in the throes of a disagreement we should avoid starting our sentences with “You never…” “You never take out the garbage!” We were told that “You never…” sounds like an accusation and puts people on the defensive. This can take

Teaching Our Kids to Empathize

January 20, 2015, by

In the past couple of parshas we read about Moshe, Aaron and Miriam caring for one another and working together. It is a beautiful example of what siblings can do if they get along! Unfortunately, as most parents know, siblings don’t always get along. Most siblings fight; they roughhouse, tease and belittle each other. In

Ask Aviva: Frowning Friend

January 8, 2015, by

Dear Aviva, I have a very good friend with whom I hang out a lot. It used to work out really well when our children were still babies. Now that our boys are preschoolers I find that her son has grown to be quite a bully. No actual violence takes place, but he chases my son around

Parenting as a Team

January 7, 2015, by

Dear Adina,  I am trying to incorporate some of the new parenting skills but my husband undermines me. He is not on board at all. I find it very frustrating and I get really irritated with him. What should I do? Thank you so much for your question. I get this a lot from Moms. Here are

The Older Sister Blues

December 31, 2014, by

A recent letter I received: I have two daughters very close in age, about a year a part.  The younger one, Sara, adores her older sister and copies everything she does—her hair, her clothing, what she reads, etc. She loves to play with her and her friends. Rachel, the older one, wants nothing to do Sara. She ignores

Disciplining Kids: When Our Child’s Bad Behavior Is Really Good

December 25, 2014, by

I am not sure why but we often put a negative spin on our children’s behavior. One such example always come to mind: the child who throws their food or toys off their highchair is being naughty or “just doing it to make us mad.” In college I learned something that has stayed with me

Leading by Example: Teaching Kids to be Thankful

November 24, 2014, by

Thanksgiving is here. Gratefulness is very much a Jewish trait. Jew in Hebrew is yehudi, which comes from the Hebrew word lehodot, which means to thank. A Jew starts their day by reciting the prayer of Modeh Ani, thanking G-d for a new day and a fresh start. Thankfulness and gratefulness are traits we need

Sibling Rivalry: Teaching Kids to Respect One Another

November 18, 2014, by

This week’s parsha brings to light a recurring theme in Sefer Bereshit—sibling rivalry. We have seen it before with Kayin and Hevel, Yitzchak and Yishmael and now again with Yaakov and Esav. We all know the famous saying, “maaseh avot siman l’banim,” (the actions of the forefathers are a symbol or sign for the children).

Ask Aviva: Doubtful Dad

November 13, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, My son’s pediatrician diagnosed him with ADHD and I don’t know if I should medicate him or not. I really don’t want to but he is out of hand at home (better in school though). My wife is refusing. What are our options? -Doubtful Dad Dear Doubtful Dad, To officially be diagnosed as

The Growth Mindset: Praising Kids for Success

November 10, 2014, by

When I first read Faber and Mazlish’s book, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, I found the chapter on praise to be eye-opening. The authors cautioned parents to stop using evaluative praise and to use descriptive praise instead. Now I am reading another book on developing a growth mindset in our kids. Author Carol Dweck explains the differences

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