Newtown’s Youngest Victim Is Laid to Rest, as the Jewish Community Comes Together

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Reprinted by permission of  The Connecticut Jewish Ledger.

FAIRFIELD – Bunches of white balloons marked the entrance to the Abraham L. Green Funeral Home on Beach Road in Fairfield, CT, where 6-year-old Noah Pozner was eulogized three days after the Sandy Hook Elementary School shootings. A bright-green hand-written sign tacked to a tree near the building read, “Our hearts are with you Noah.”

A group of reporters waited in the cold drizzle across the street, TV cameras shielded under black plastic tarp. Local and state police blocked Beach Road and patrolled the parking lot around the building. A small knot of Orthodox men davened outside the funeral home.

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By 1 p.m., some 200 people had filed into the memorial chapel. Seats were filled by family, friends, members of Congregation Adath Israel in Newtown, local Jewish communal leaders. The rest stood outside the chapel in the vestibule, silent, listening.

In an hour or so, the funeral cortege would proceed to the B’nai Israel cemetery, 17 miles north on Moose Hill Road in Monroe. For now, family members would remember aloud the little boy who had been taken from them too soon, too violently. They would speak with love, with sorrow, and even with humor.

Rabbi Shaul Praver of Congregation Adath Israel opened the service by chanting Psalm 23. “I sense a turning point. I sense an extraordinary light coming from the darkness,” said Praver, then invited to the podium Noah’s mother, Veronique Pozner.

“The sky is crying, and the flags are at half-mast. It is a sad, sad day,” she said. “But it is also your day, Noah, my little man. I will miss your forceful and purposeful little steps stomping through our house. I will miss your perpetual smile, the twinkle in your dark blue eyes, framed by eyelashes that would be the envy of any lady in this room.”

She spoke of all the things she would miss in the boy who filled the house with love, light, mischief and pranks.

“Most of all, I will miss your visions of your future,” she said. “You wanted to be a doctor, a soldier, a taco factory manager. Tacos were your favorite food and no doubt you wanted to ensure that your world kept producing them. Your life force was like a celestial body. You adored your family with every fiber of your 6-year-old being. We are elevated in our humanity in having known you.”

She concluded, “Noah, you will not pass through this way again. I can only believe that you were planted on Earth to bloom in heaven. Take flight, my boy. Soar. You now have the wings you always wanted. Go to that peaceful valley that we will all one day come to know. I will join you someday. Not today. I still have lots of mommy love to give to Danielle, Michael, Sophia and Arielle.”

Among those also eulogizing Noah were his aunt, Victoria Haller of Woodinville, Wash., his uncle Alexis Haller, and his 15-year old brother, Michael. “I take comfort in knowing that Noah is free, he has gone home,” said Michael. “Let us not be lost in sorrow. Let us live our lives as happily and righteously as we can. We can better ourselves as people for Noah, celebrate his life, and live for him. When we’re all called home, we will see him again. We did not lose our Noah, we gained a guardian angel.”

Praver then read letters from Israeli president Shimon Peres and Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu to President. Obama. “I was shocked and horrified,” Netanyahu wrote of hearing about the massacre. “I express my profound grief and that of all the people of Israel.”

Praver continued by describing the strength of the Jewish people. “The secret of Jewish survival and our greatest wisdom is to thrive,” he said. “When the Holocaust happened, there were no Jewish attacks on German people or property, no acts of terror. That is not our way of reacting to tragedy. Instead, as written in the psalm we opened with today, we ‘set a banquet in the presence of our enemies.’ We established the State of Israel as an ingathering, as a rebirth. Our greatest, most exalted responsibility is to thrive.”

Speaking to Noah’s twin sister, Arielle, who was in an adjacent classroom at Sandy Hook Elementary School during the shooting, he spoke of his own 6-year-old twins. “Arielle, I know you loved and continue to love Noah very much,” he said. “Now you have to love him double.”

Praver challenged the mourners to take on this call for tikkun olam. “Each and every one of us, regardless of our political bent, can do something to transform our society into one of peace and love,” he said. “We don’t always have to go to war, we don’t have to tolerate abuse to any child. We can learn to communicate and listen much better than we do. We can vow to not leave through these doors until we’ve made a firm decision so that we don’t have to come here again to bury a child. Those of you who have also lost children, know that we will be there to help you carry this load, and not just today or tomorrow, but for the months and years ahead.”

Praver chanted “El Malei Rachamim,” then translated the prayer into English. Funeral director Samuel Green activated a CD player, and Carole King’s “Child of Mine” filled the chapel..

Newtown has been modeling for the rest of the world “Kiddush Hashem,” the sanctification of God’s name, through the love between members of all faiths, Praver said. “Let’s remember this moment somehow,” he concluded. “Let’s keep Kiddush Hashem alive. That’s the starting point, and great things can grow from there.”

Eight pallbearers slowly wheeled the small casket to the rear of the chapel and outside to a waiting hearse. Mourners walked out after the Pozner family, or stayed behind to embrace and talk.

Rabbi Edgar Gluck of Brooklyn and Rabbi Levi Stone of Norwalk were among those gathered outside the entrance. The two are volunteers with Chesed Shel Emes, the U.S. affiliate of the Israeli organization ZAKA (Zihui Korbanot Ason, or disaster victim identification). Among their duties is to gather body parts and spilled blood for proper Jewish burial. As a chaplain working with various Connecticut police departments and the state medical examiner, Stone is often called upon to assist at the scene of a crime or accident, and he works to educate officials in Jewish burial practices. He received a call on the afternoon of Dec. 14, after the dead had been carried out of the school building, and he determined that his services were not necessary.

Like Stone, as the horrific nature of the shooting became clear on Friday, Rabbi Yisroel Deren and his wife, Vivi, of Chabad of Fairfield County  in Stamford were called upon to help the families. In fact, the Derens received two phone calls:  one from a friend of Noah Pozner’s father, Lenny, and one from Governor Dan Malloy, a close friend of the Derens since his years as mayor of Stamford.

“I knew why we had been called,” says Vivi Deren. “It was not only because my husband is a compassionate and caring rabbi, who has brought comfort to so many hurting people. We were being asked to help because as bereaved parents ourselves, several times over, perhaps we had something more to offer – if only to be evidence that it is possible to breathe after the breath has literally been knocked out of you.”

Malloy asked the Derens to meet with the bereaved families prior to the interfaith service planned for that Sunday evening at the local high school and attended by President Obama.

According to Vivi Deren, Lenny Pozner’s friend had a more specific request. “’They need you.  You can speak with them, you can relate to them. Come. Please come,’” she says he told her.

“There isn’t much you can say to a request like that,” says Vivi Deren, who did not know the Pozners.

And so, the couple travelled to the house where the Pozners were staying.

“I walked in with a prayer on my lips that whatever we say will bring comfort. We were brought to a quiet room to speak with Noah’s family. I found myself listening to a broken-hearted mother describing her little boy, Noah, one of the first graders and the youngest of the victims. Noah. Someone described in the Torah as a tzaddik, a righteous person, “complete”. All of humanity is considered to be his descendants, bound in a covenant with God, to partner with Him to create a world of peace and harmony, of justice, goodness and kindness. The almost universal symbols of peace, a dove and an olive branch, trace back to Noah and his story.”

Noah’s mother, Veronique, told Vivi Deren that her son loved rainbows.

“Rainbows!” says Deren. “The sign of God’s promise never, ever to bring a flood on the whole world again. A symbol of healing, promise, and optimism.”

Later, at the Sunday evening interfaith service, the Derens were present when President Obama and Governor Malloy meet with each family. Malloy introduced Rabbi Deren as his “very good friend,” asking him to be available for the next 24 to 48 hours.

Then, suddenly, says Vivi Deren, without any fanfare the President walked in.

“I am moved to tears watching him with these grief stricken people. The power of this gesture is immense; he truly does convey the sense that the whole country is mourning alongside these anguished families. The way he bends down to speak with Noah’s twin sister, the way he comforts the grandparents, and gently joshes the teenage siblings, the way he makes a point of saying, as he did later, that we will be with you,’ not just now but for the long haul. The President met privately with every single family, and took time to speak at length with each bereaved parent.”

Since the shootings on Dec. 14, the members of Congregation Adath Israel have pulled together to help and support one another. Their synagogue was a communal gathering place at Friday night services, when Israeli Consul General Ido Aharoni and Connecticut governor Dannel Malloy were among the worshippers. Aharoni met with Adath Israel Hebrew school students on Sunday. That evening, a group of congregants gathered at a private home to watch the interfaith memorial service televised from Newtown High School.

Praver is planning a musical Melaveh Malka program at the synagogue as Shabbat ends this Saturday night. “I want to draw the kids out with something light,”  he says, a way to give them a different experience in the midst of the sadness that has engrossed their community.

The words of this author reflect his/her own opinions and do not necessarily represent the official position of the Orthodox Union.