Covenant & Conversation: Family Edition is a new and exciting initiative from The Office of Rabbi Sacks for 5779. Written as an accompaniment to Rabbi Sacks’ weekly Covenant & Conversation essay, the Family Edition is aimed at connecting older children and teenagers with his ideas and thoughts on the parsha. Each element of the Family Edition is progressively more advanced; The Core Idea is appropriate for all ages and the final element, From The Thought of Rabbi Sacks, is the most advanced section. Each section includes Questions to Ponder, aimed at encouraging discussion between family members in a way most appropriate to them. We have also included a section called Around the Shabbat Table with a few further questions on the parsha to think about. The final section is an Educational Companion which includes suggested talking points in response to the questions found throughout the Family Edition.
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The Parsha in a Nutshell
The central theme of the book of Numbers is the second stage of the Israelites’ journey. Not only are they on a physical journey from Egypt to the Promised Land, but they must also adjust their mentality from slavery to freedom. This is their journey through Bamidbar.
This parsha is about the preparations for that journey, the first step being to take a census. To inherit the land, the Israelites will have to fight. Hence the census, specifically of men between the ages of twenty and sixty (those eligible to serve in battles). The Levites were counted separately because it was their role to minister in the Sanctuary.
Instructions were given as to the layout of the camp, which was to be a square with the Sanctuary in the middle. Three tribes were to set up their tents and banners on each side, while the Levites formed an inner square. The order in which they encamped was also the order in which they journeyed. The duties of the family of Kehat – which also included Moses, Aaron, and Miriam, who had other roles – were spelled out. It was their task to carefully carry the most sacred objects, the Ark, Table, Menorah, Altars, curtains, and holy vessels used in the sacrificial service, when the Israelites journeyed.
The Core Idea
Bamidbar begins with a census (a counting) of the Israelites. That is why this book is known in English as ‘Numbers’. Our question is, since this is the Jewish People’s third census within the space of a single year, why was it important to do this again? Is this census special?
The answer lies in the phrase the Torah uses to describe the act of counting: se’u et rosh, literally, to “lift the head.” This is a strange, indirect expression. Biblical Hebrew contains many verbs meaning “to count”: limnot, lifkod, lispor, lachshov. Why does the Torah not use one of these words, choosing instead the roundabout expression, “lift the heads” of the people?
In any census, head-count or roll-call there is a tendency to focus on the total: the crowd, the multitude, the mass. The larger the total, the stronger the army, the greater the fan-base, and the more successful the company.
Counting a group devalues the individual, and tends to make him or her replaceable. If one soldier dies in battle, another will take his place. If one person leaves the organisation, someone else can be hired to do his or her job.
There is therefore a danger, when counting a nation, that each individual will feel insignificant. “What am I? What difference can I make? I am only one of millions, a mere wave in the ocean, a grain of sand on the sea-shore, dust on the surface of infinity.” So God tells Moses to “lift people’s heads” and to show them that they each count; they all matter as individuals. To lift someone’s head means to show them favour, to recognise them. If a census is taken in this way, it is a gesture of love. This census, and the language used to describe it, sends the clear message that in Judaism we believe that each individual matters.
QUESTIONS TO PONDER:
- We often count people. Whether it’s for a national census, the size of a crowd, or even discussing someone’s family, why do we count people?
- How might counting people devalue individuals in a group? Can you think of when this is done on purpose?
- What is the message of the language used in this census: se’u et rosh?
It Once Happened…
Every year at Israel’s official state Independence Day celebrations on Mount Herzl, 12 individuals are granted the honour of lighting a torch, one for each of the 12 tribes of the Jewish people. This year, during the celebrations for Israel’s 71st birthday, a very special woman was honoured. Here is her story:
Marie Nahmias, affectionately called Mamo (“mother” in Tunisian-accented French) by all who know her, spent her youth hiding from Nazis during the German occupation of Tunisia. She was then forced to flee from Arab pogroms against the Jews of Tunisia, and so she arrived in Israel as a young woman with no money or prospects. She lived a life of poverty in those early years, forced to reside in ma’abarot (tented camps), as the government desperately tried to develop enough housing to meet the needs of the hundreds of thousands of Jewish refugees who were arriving. She settled in the northern town of Afula, married and raised eight children there, and struggled to make ends meet.
Then tragedy struck and her son Shaul was badly wounded whilst serving in the Yom Kippur War in 1973. As he lay in hospital for the weeks and months that followed the war, she vowed that if God healed her son, she would be willing to do any mitzvah or mission given to her. God heard her prayer and her son recovered.
Shaul became a social worker for the municipality, and one day he called her and said he had a little disabled girl who needed a home. She didn’t hesitate, and this young girl became the first of 52 foster children that were raised in her house. The children she cared for often had special difficulties, illnesses, and physical limitations. At first they came from the Afula social services department. Some were Jewish, some were Arab. Soon, news of her kindness and love spread, and children began arriving at her doorstep from around the country, and sometimes even from beyond Israel’s borders. As her fame grew, it became known everywhere that she was willing to take in and raise any child, because she believed in her heart that every person was made in the image of God, no matter where they came from or what difficulties they had in life.
As the dignified 93-year-old lit the torch that chilly May evening in front of the eyes of the nation, the host of the ceremony broke with protocol and asked Mamo to bless the nation. Again she did not hesitate: “May Israel be blessed, from all my heart, God will hear me, Israel will rise ever upward, that we grow, that our soldiers don’t fall anymore — that the Jews and the Arabs and the Christians and the Druze, will all become one single hand. We are all created by God, may He give us peace.” Before she had even finished saying these words, the crowd, led by the Prime Minister and his wife, rose to their feet in a standing ovation, cheering her words and her message.
QUESTIONS TO PONDER:
- How does the life of Mamo embody the value of the message of this week’s Covenant & Conversation?
- Do you think the struggles Mamo faced in her life were more or less likely to encourage her to live the life she did?
Thinking More Deeply
Crowds tend to have the effect of making the individual lose his or her independent judgment and instead simply follow what others are doing. We call this “herd behaviour,” and it sometimes leads to collective madness. Gustav Le Bon’s The Crowd: A Study of the Popular Mind (1895) showed how crowds exercise a “magnetic influence” that transmutes the behaviour of individuals into a collective “group mind.” As he put it, “An individual in a crowd is a grain of sand amid other grains of sand, which the wind stirs up at will.” People in a crowd become anonymous. Their conscience is silenced. They also lose a sense of personal responsibility. Large gathered groups are peculiarly prone to regressive behaviour, primitive reactions and instinctual actions. Crowds are easily led by exploiters and manipulators, who may play on people’s fears and sense of victimhood, and incite them to hate and attack other groups.
Judaism never allows us to lose our individuality in the mass. We believe that every human being is in the image and likeness of God. The Sages taught us that every life is like an entire universe. Rambam says that each of us should see ourselves as if our next act could change the fate of the world. Every dissenting view is carefully recorded in the Mishnah, even if the law is otherwise. Every verse of the Torah is capable, said the Sages, of seventy interpretations. No voice, no view, is silenced.
There is a wonderful blessing mentioned in the Talmud to be said on seeing 600,000 Israelites together in one place. It is: “Blessed are You, Lord … who discerns secrets.” The Talmud explains that every person is different. We each have different attributes. We all think our own thoughts. Only God can enter the minds of each of us and know what we are thinking, and this is what the blessing refers to. In other words, even in a massive crowd where, to human eyes, faces blur into a mass, God still relates to us as individuals, not as members of a crowd.
Therefore, in Judaism, taking a census must always be done in such a way as to signal that we are valued as individuals. We each have unique gifts. There is a contribution only I can bring. God tells Moses to lift people’s heads by showing that they each count; they matter as individuals.
All this has implications for Jewish leadership. The Jewish people always was very small, and yet it has achieved great things. A Jewish leader must respect individuals. He or she must “lift their heads.” However small or large the group you lead, you must always communicate the value you place on everyone. You must never attempt to sway a crowd by appealing to the primitive emotions of fear or hate. You must never ride roughshod over the opinions of others. It is hard to lead a nation of individuals, but this is the most challenging, empowering, inspiring leadership of all.
From the Thought of Rabbi Sacks
God, the creator of humanity, having made a covenant with all humanity, then turns to one people and commands them to be different, in order to teach humanity the dignity of difference. Biblical monotheism is not the idea that there is one God and therefore one truth, one faith, one way of life. To the contrary, it is the idea that unity of God is to be found in diversity. That is the miracle of creation. What is real, remarkable and the proper object of our wonder is not the quintessential leaf but the 250,000 different kinds of leaves; not the archetypal bird but the 9,000 species that exist today; not one metalanguage that embraces all others, but the 6,000 languages still spoken throughout the world…
Judaism is about the miracle of unity that celebrates diversity.
The Dignity of Difference, p. 53
QUESTIONS TO PONDER:
- What does the “Dignity of Difference” mean? Where is this message also seen in this week’s Covenant & Conversation?
- How is the national mission of the Jewish people contained in the covenant between God and Israel to spread the message of the “Dignity of Difference”?
Around the Shabbat Table
- Why do we count people?
- What positive and negative messages could be inherent in the act of counting people?
- How do you feel when you are part of a big crowd? Has this been a positive or negative experience for you in the past?
- Where in Judaism can you see the value of the importance and dignity of the individual?
- Is there a danger that focusing on the value of the individual will lead to negative behaviour and attitudes?
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THE CORE IDEA
- We count what we value. A collector will count their prize collection, an athlete will count their medals, a high achiever will list their awards, and a businessperson, or a cautious saver, will count their money. There are also other reasons to count masses of people. A government or local authority must know how many citizens it is to provide services for, and so will count them, and often we count a crowd as a measure of success, significance or popularity.
- When we count a crowd of people, arriving at a total number, we devalue the significance and value of each individual. Each individual just becomes a number, which can be interpreted to mean they are easily replaceable. In the military, a soldier’s ID number sends an important message – the soldier must suppress their own personal needs and ambitions for the good of the larger collective – in this case the army. They must follow orders without questioning, and be subordinate to their superiors. This idea was taken to an evil extreme during the Holocaust, when concentration camp inmates had numbers tattooed on their arm in order to dehumanise them and rob them of their human dignity.
- The Hebrew phrase se’u et rosh means literally “lift the head”, and this was the way God commanded Moses to count the Israelites. It implies that each member of the nation had a head, a personality, a reality and an existence. The term to lift the head implies the maintaining of human dignity, rather than reducing each person to a mere number which would have the opposite effect.
IT ONCE HAPPENED…
- Mamo saw the unique value and significance of every person, whether Jew or non-Jew, able-body or disabled in some way. When she saw a human being, she saw within them the image of God, and therefore she treated each person with respect and dignity.
- We might imagine a person who lived a difficult life, facing much suffering at the hands of others, to find it harder to show compassion and treat strangers with dignity and compassion. But perhaps because she suffered, she realised how important it is to behave in this way.
FROM THE THOUGHT OF RABBI SACKS
- The ‘Dignity of Difference’, a core idea in the thought of Rabbi Sacks, suggests that diversity among human beings should be celebrated not feared. It is our differences that can bring us together, because no two humans are exactly the same, but there are core similarities between all humans. This is how unity celebrates diversity. The things that make us the same should be acknowledged and the things that make us different should be appreciated. This is the message of the census in this week’s parsha. Each individual has unique worth and therefore should be afforded dignity and respect.
- The national mission of the Jewish people is to model the core values of the Torah, one of which is the Dignity of Difference. An example of this is the mitzvah to protect the weak in society. The Jewish people have always been “the other”, the outsider in society, and in the family of nations. The Jewish people in their “otherness” challenges the world to understand the message of the Dignity of Difference.
AROUND THE SHABBAT TABLE
- See The Core Idea, answer 1.
- Counting a crowd of people, arriving at a total number, may devalue the significance and value of each individual. Each person becomes a mere number, which can be interpreted to mean they are easily replaceable. However, the act of counting can also have the opposite message – we count those things we value. When God uses the Hebrew phrase se’u et rosh, which means literally “lift the head”, the message is that each member of the nation has unique significance and worth.
- Sometimes being part of a large crowd can lead to feelings of insignificance, or significance beyond oneself. Crowds can sometimes have the effect of making the individual lose his or her independent judgment and follow what others are doing (“herd behaviour,”).
- The most important source for this concept is Genesis 1:27 where humanity is described as being created in the Image of God. No matter the race, skin colour, faith or appearance, every human being has a Divine spark in them that demands we treat them with respect and protect their dignity. Many of the ethical commands in Judaism have this value at their core also, such as tzedakah which is designed to redress injustice in society, reinstating the dignity of the individual.
- There is a difference between individuality and individualism. Individuality means that I am a unique and valued member of a team. Individualism means that I am not a team player at all. I am interested in myself alone, not the group. Judaism values individuality, not individualism.
The words of this author reflect his/her own opinions and do not necessarily represent the official position of the Orthodox Union.