Combating Adolescent Obesity

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05 Feb 2019

It’s happening all too often.  The phone rings in my office and another mother is calling about her teenage daughter or son who is, at this early age, struggling with being overweight or obese.  Some of them already have high blood sugar, high cholesterol or even high blood pressure.

This is, unfortunately, becoming commonplace. Adolescent obesity has been linked to depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, poor self-esteem, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), aggressive and destructive behavior, binging and purging, and other severe emotional outcomes (Reinehr 2018).  Unfortunately, many parents and their teenage children become desperate for solutions.  After all, with social stigmas and getting closer to the age of shidduchim, this is a true problem and an answer needs to be found. But desperate measures don’t bring positive results.

Desperate for help, many teens and their families will try anything to lose weight. Their feelings are justified: Without intensive intervention, 90% of obese teens will be overweight or obese as adults. They also face increased risk for type 2 diabetes and insulin resistance, sleep apnea, fatty-liver disease, high cholesterol, hypertension, hip dysfunction, and poly­cystic ovarian syndrome-PCOS (in females) (Steinbeck et al. 2018).  And so people tend to do the wrong things; the things that have proven ineffective. 

The very first option people think of is the failed diet “solution.”  They don’t work, they’ve never worked and it is a mentality that we need to abandon both for teens and adults. In addition, there are the companies that want to take advantage of the problem. In the United States, recently Weight Watchers offered a free weight loss program for teens. Weight loss companies like Medifast® and OPTIFAST® have developed teen-focused programs with calorie-controlled meal plans that require purchases of shakes and other processed foods. Weight loss camps—generally costing $5,000–$10,000 for programs of 2–12 weeks—promise teens rapid weight loss, often with little medical oversight or evidence of long-term effectiveness.   

Unfortunately, some of these kids end up eating disordered from some of these methods. Instead, we need to use an approach that will bring a long-term result and help our teens develop good health habits for the rest of their lives. 

Adolescence is a vulnerable life stage with new social norms and pressures. Teens’ impulsive behavior, quick-fix outlook, growing independence and potential defiance can make any attempt to influence their health seem overwhelming.  The first step is to gain their confidence and focus on changing behaviors and habits, and not on losing weight and the pressure of the number on the scale.  Instead of restricting calories, start with five behavioral changes that will make a big difference:

Teens are not like the rest of us.  Adolescents are not young versions of adults. Thus, optimizing health and treating obesity in teenagers means tailoring programs to their age, developmental stage, personal preferences and aspirations. Moreover, this work must be done by a caring team of medical and health professionals who understand adolescents.  We desperately need to help teens eat better, move more, sleep longer, spend less time on screens and devices, and better manage stress. Teens must be able to experience the rewards, including improved mental and physical health and well-being that result from these behavior changes.

The role of parents in this process is critical.  Research has found that parents who urge a child to diet may do more harm than good: “Experiencing parent encouragement to diet as an adolescent was significantly associated with a higher risk of overweight or obesity, dieting, binge eating, engaging in unhealthy weight-control behaviors, and lower body satisfaction 15 years later” (Berge et al. 2018). Instead, parents can help by modeling healthy habits and a healthy relationship with food for the whole family.

I once worked with a bochur who was in his last year of Yeshiva K’tana.  Aside from the yeshiva itself not willing to cooperate with his weight loss, his parents couldn’t understand that even though he was the only child in the house who needed to lose weight, he shouldn’t be singled out and be expected to abide by restrictions that the rest of the home didn’t have to keep.  For instance, sitting around the table on Shabbos afternoon while everyone was eating chips and drinking cola, he was expected to refrain.  Parents have to be role models.  Even if siblings will eat the way they eat, the parents need to model proper behaviors for all of their children.  If you expect you kids to eat healthy and get some exercise, you need to do the same. 

When it comes to modeling and encouraging our teens to lose weight, here are some simple do’s and don’ts as suggested by Dr. Natalie Digate Muth, a pediatrician, dietician and personal trainer. 



When speaking to a teen about weight loss, it is incredibly important to discuss in an adult fashion the true dangers of being overweight and obese.  Just like we teach our children the dangers of smoking or to wear a seatbelt in a car for their own health and safety, in a delicate way, the dangers of obesity should be made known. 

First, be informed and research this subject for yourself.  After talking about the different risks involved, engage your child of friend in conversation about each point and make sure they understand the ramifications of each disease or problem and the resultant lack of quality of life.  Here are some points to discuss:

Even with all the facts and figures in hand to discuss, it always will come down to changing habits and behaviors in order to get the desired results.  It is essential to empower our adolescents and encouraging them to be successful.  The first step is to set goal and make sure they are reachable and realistic. Give your child the autonomy and the tools to make healthy choices.  A normal and doable goal such as, “I will eat a fruit or vegetable with each meal or snack” is much better than saying I will lose 1 pound this week. These tactics set teens up for the quick wins that will keep them motivated. 

Once teens develop goals, encourage them to learn new skills like reading nutrition labels, understanding serving sizes, noting hunger and fullness cues, and helping with meal planning. These skills can keep teens involved and achieve their goals.

Another way to empower teens is to let them attend health or fitness appointments on their own, without a parent. I usually ask the parents to come to the first visit or two but after that I prefer to see the client alone.

Keeping our households healthy is imperative for good health and quality of life.  If we do have an adolescent who is struggling, we should take action, but we need to take the right and proper steps to help them succeed and “add hours to your day, days to your year and years to your life.” 

The words of this author reflect his/her own opinions and do not necessarily represent the official position of the Orthodox Union.