Adina Soclof, MS. CCC-SLP is a certified Speech Pathologist. She received her master's degree from Hunter College in New York in Communication Sciences. She works as a Parent Educator for Bellefaire Jewish Children's Bureau facilitating "How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk" workshops as well as workshops based on “Siblings Without Rivalry.” Adina developed TEAM Communication Ventures and conducts parenting, teacher and clinician workshops via telephone nationwide. Adina lives with her husband and four lively children in Cleveland, Ohio. You can visit her at website at www.parentingsimply.com.
This week’s parsha brings to light a recurring theme in Sefer Bereshit—sibling rivalry. We have seen it before with Kayin and Hevel, Yitzchak and Yishmael and now again with Yaakov and Esav. We all know the famous saying, “maaseh avot siman l’banim,” (the actions of the forefathers are a symbol or sign for the children).
When I first read Faber and Mazlish’s book, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, I found the chapter on praise to be eye-opening. The authors cautioned parents to stop using evaluative praise and to use descriptive praise instead. Now I am reading another book on developing a growth mindset in our kids. Author Carol Dweck explains the differences
I know that when my children become defiant, my initial reaction is to lash out at them and get really angry. “How dare they!” I think. “After all I do for them, this is the way they talk to me?” My thoughts can go even further downhill, “I’ll make them do as I say! I’ll
In Parshat Lech Lecha, G-d tells Avraham to “Go from your land, from your birthplace and from your father’s house, to the land which I will show you.” Rashi says on this Pasuk: From your land: Now had he not already gone out of there with his father and come as far as Haran? Rather,
In Parshat Noach, the Torah relates the story of Migdal Bavel. The sons of Noach decide to build a tower that will reach the heavens so they can defy G-d. As a punishment, G- d confuses their languages so that they cannot understand one another and they cannot work together. They need to go their separate
Ever have a child who digs in his heels when he doesn’t want to do what you ask him to do? What about the child who does not give up? The child who is outside in the backyard day after day until he has perfected that curveball? You might have what you call a “stubborn”
I recently received the following letter: My daughter is often complaining about her day in school. She seems to do well academically and has friends. She just seems to take things to heart and does not seem to be able to cope with life. I vacillate between saying, “You shouldn’t worry, you are smart and
About a year ago, The New York Times published an article about Marshall Duke, a psychologist at Emory University. He was asked to explore ritual and myth in American families. What he discovered is that children who know a lot about their families and their histories tend to do better when they face challenges. “The
The summer is flying by and we’re trying to enjoy it. However, our thoughts never stray to far from Israel. I am glued to the computer, to the news reports coming out of the Holy Land. My second son is there now on NCSY’s Kollel tour and we hope to join him in 2 weeks.
My son is a CIT at a local day camp here. After the first day of camp, he complained, “My campers just don’t listen! It is really hard being a counselor!” All parents know this feeling. There is nothing so frustrating for a parent as when their kids do not listen to them. When we