{"id":62278,"date":"2019-08-28T11:19:47","date_gmt":"2019-08-28T16:19:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/?p=62278"},"modified":"2019-08-28T11:22:50","modified_gmt":"2019-08-28T16:22:50","slug":"it-kind-of-is-your-fault","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/inspiration\/it-kind-of-is-your-fault\/","title":{"rendered":"It Kind of Is Your Fault"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of the most interesting aspects of my job is the random assortment of questions that I\u2019m privileged to answer. It\u2019s always enlightening to see what others come up with that might not have occurred to you or me. Two of the more interesting questions I\u2019ve fielded recently include, \u201cIf God spoke to Moses face to face, then what was up with the burning bush?\u201d and \u201cDidn\u2019t people other than Noah have boats?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t often use these Q&amp;A as fodder for articles but a question I received last week raised an important point, especially as we enter Elul and the <em>yomim noraim<\/em> (\u201cDays of Awe,\u201d AKA the \u201cHigh Holidays\u201d). A correspondent asked, \u201cIf a man is unaware that a woman is married, like she deceives him to know him carnally, then would there still be a sin?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I certainly hope that the writer\u2019s concern is academic rather than autobiographical but either way, it\u2019s a valid question. It also need not be limited to adultery.<\/p>\n<p>In my response, I informed the correspondent that if one performs a sinful act unintentionally, it is still a sin, though the rules are different if one acts unaware than if he acts with malice aforethought.<\/p>\n<p>Consider the various offenses that might warrant punishments if performed intentionally. Depending on the offense, one might be subject to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/torah\/mitzvot\/taryag\/mitzvah595\/\"><strong>lashes<\/strong><\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/torah\/mitzvot\/taryag\/mitzvah47\/\"><strong>capital punishment<\/strong><\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/torah\/machshava\/the-god-papers\/7-suffering-gehinnom\/\"><strong>kareis<\/strong><\/a> (spiritual excision). But the ubiquitous <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/torah\/mitzvot\/taryag\/mitzvah121\/\"><strong><em>korban chatas<\/em><\/strong><\/a>, AKA the \u201csin offering?\u201d That was by definition limited to when one performed a prohibited act unintentionally. Leviticus 4:27 says, \u201cIf one of the people sins by doing any of the things that God commanded not be done, and he is guilty\u2026.\u201d He sinned unintentionally but, nevertheless, he is guilty because, regardless of circumstances, he actually did the thing.<\/p>\n<p>If you think that\u2019s something, consider the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/torah\/mitzvot\/taryag\/mitzvah128\/\"><em><strong>asham talui<\/strong><\/em><\/a> (\u201cdoubtful guilt offering\u201d). Leviticus 5:17 tells us, \u201cIf anyone sins and does one of the things that God commanded not be done, though he doesn\u2019t know it, he is guilty and will bear his sin\u2026.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The prototypical case of an <em>asham talui<\/em> is that there are two pieces of fat, one of which is <em>cheilev<\/em> (forbidden fat) and one of which is <em>shumen<\/em> (permitted fat). A person ate one of them but he\u2019s not sure which. This person is \u201cguilty\u201d even though he\u2019s not even sure that he did the sinful thing!<\/p>\n<p>The Sefer HaChinuch explains the rationale underlying this mitzvah: it\u2019s to condition us to tread carefully in our deeds and to be aware of what we\u2019re doing. Maybe, before we pop something into our mouths, we want to take a second and check it out. A little effort beforehand can save us a lot of trouble down the road.<\/p>\n<p>So we see that these \u201csin\u201d and \u201cguilt\u201d offerings were brought specifically in cases where people did <em>not<\/em> act with the intention to transgress. (And these aren\u2019t even the only ones; consider, for example, the <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/torah\/mitzvot\/taryag\/mitzvah120\/\"><em>par he\u2019elam davar<\/em><\/a><\/strong>, which was brought when the courts made an erroneous ruling.) \u201cSin\u201d and \u201cguilt\u201d are not a function of intent!<\/p>\n<p>This actually makes perfect sense and it\u2019s not unlike secular situations that we might take for granted. For example, if you accidentally parked in a \u201chandicapped\u201d spot (i.e., one reserved for people with disabilities) and you came out of the store to discover that you had inconvenienced someone in a wheelchair, wouldn&#8217;t you say, \u201cI&#8217;m so sorry, I didn&#8217;t realize&#8230;?\u201d Even though it was an accident, you would hopefully still take responsibility for your actions. And if you turn right on red in a state where that&#8217;s illegal, you can still get a ticket (though maybe the officer will be nice and let you go). Lack of information or even misinformation may mitigate a situation but it doesn&#8217;t completely absolve us.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s look at some practical examples. I doubt that most of us go around popping random pieces of fat into our mouths but we do eat lots of other things. Often, those things have kosher certification symbols that we don\u2019t recognize. When you see the letter K superimposed on, say, the silhouette of Chewbacca, do you shrug and say, \u201cWell, <em>someone<\/em> says it\u2019s kosher, so it\u2019s on them,\u201d or do you invest due diligence into finding out who\u2019s behind the Chewbacca-K? If we don\u2019t invest our best efforts, our actions are on <em>us<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>The same is true when it comes to keeping Shabbos. How often do we ask whether something is permitted on Shabbos and then just give it our best guess? In the introduction to <em>hilchos Shabbos<\/em>, the Mishnah Brurah cites Rav Yonasan Eibeschutz that it\u2019s impossible for one who doesn\u2019t study the laws of Shabbos to avoid regular Sabbath transgressions. It\u2019s not sufficient to say, \u201cI didn\u2019t know\u201d \u2013 we\u2019re obligated to find out!<\/p>\n<p>If we accidentally do something wrong, we are still at least partially responsible because we are obligated to do our best to know what we\u2019re doing when we act. If we haven\u2019t made sufficient effort to know whether something is permitted, it may not be as bad as intentionally doing something wrong but that doesn\u2019t make it a free pass, either.<\/p>\n<p>In the absence of the Temple, we do not currently have sacrifices like the <em>korban chatas<\/em> and the <em>asham talui<\/em>. Nevertheless, we still possess the tools to make things right. As we enter this time of introspection, let us make amends with God (through prayer, repentance and confession) and with our fellow man (through reparations and sincere apology). Going forward, in our interactions both mundane and Divine, let us remember the legal principle that <em>ignorantia legis neminem excusat<\/em> \u2013 ignorance doesn\u2019t excuse us.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><em>Rabbi Jack Abramowitz is Torah Content Editor at the Orthodox Union. He is the author of six books, including\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Tzniyus-Book-Jack-Abramowitz\/dp\/1441577963\">The Tzniyus Book<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Taryag-Companion-Multilingual-Rabbi-Abramowitz\/dp\/1469192101\">The Taryag Companion<\/a>. His latest work,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/oupress\/product\/the-god-book\">The God Book<\/a>, is available from\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/oupress\/product\/the-god-book\">OU Press<\/a>\u00a0as well as on\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/God-Book-Rabbi-Jack-Abramowitz\/dp\/1524573493\">Amazon<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the most interesting aspects of my job is the random assortment of questions that I\u2019m privileged to answer. It\u2019s always enlightening to see what others come up with that might not have occurred to you or me. 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