{"id":40566,"date":"2015-07-08T13:21:15","date_gmt":"2015-07-08T18:21:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/?p=40566"},"modified":"2015-07-09T10:42:57","modified_gmt":"2015-07-09T15:42:57","slug":"how-to-make-a-shiva-call","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/inspiration\/how-to-make-a-shiva-call\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Make a Shiva Call"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/files\/download2.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" size-full wp-post-40566 wp-image-40570 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/files\/download2.jpeg\" alt=\"download\" width=\"259\" height=\"194\" \/><\/a>Shiva calls are a part of the fabric of Jewish life. But how do you make a proper a shiva call? Who doesn&#8217;t recall that time when you visited someone in mourning and had nothing to say? Kveller posted <a href=\"http:\/\/www.kveller.com\/how-to-make-a-tragic-shiva-call\/\">this article<\/a> about how to properly make shiva calls. Some points include not trying to cheer up the person in mourning and remembering that the visit isn&#8217;t about you and how you feel. Another important fact? Be concrete when you offer to help: ask the mourner if they want something specific, instead of a general &#8220;anything.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>This <a href=\"http:\/\/www.kveller.com\/how-to-make-a-tragic-shiva-call\/\">article<\/a> is a must-read. Kudos to Kveller for publishing it. The article was written by Amanda Bradley in light of the tragic death of Henri Sueke z\u201dl, Moshe ben Yaakov, &#8220;who died far too young and whose\u00a0<em>shiva\u00a0<\/em>is far too painful. &#8221; May his memory be a blessing.<\/p>\n<p>Sign up for the OU&#8217;s Tisha B&#8217;Av webcast <a href=\"http:\/\/www.pages01.net\/uojca\/tishabav\/\">here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Shiva calls are a part of the fabric of Jewish life. But how do you make a proper a shiva call? Who doesn&#8217;t recall that time when you visited someone in mourning and had nothing to say? Kveller posted this article about how to properly make shiva calls. 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