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\"OLYMPUS<\/a>This article originally appeared on\u00a0Jewinthecity.com<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

My husband is a bit of a survivalist. What I mean by that is that he longingly dreams of things like being left in the woods and having to fend for himself by eating wild mice.\u00a0He got this idea from a reality show he once saw. Yes \u2013 this actually happened.<\/em>\u00a0(As a side note \u2013 \u00a0although mice are not kosher, if a person had to save his life by eating non-kosher, he would be obligated to do so.) He said I could come along, but suffice it to say that such a scenario is the stuff my\u00a0nightmares<\/em>\u00a0are made of.<\/p>\n

While my hubbie, thankfully, has no plans to be dropped off in the wilderness any time soon, when he heard that Hurricane Sandy was coming, he was filled with a little bit of pre-disaster glee. (It doesn\u2019t even make sense to me as I write it, yet that\u2019s the only way to describe the look in his eyes as he was getting ready for the storm.) It\u2019s not everyday a\u00a0survivalist\u00a0gets to prepare for a natural disaster, after all! Besides copious amounts of water, batteries, ice, and firewood, one of the things on my husband\u2019s must-have-survival-list was a lifetime supply of candy, which he\u00a0conveniently\u00a0found stocked at Costco.<\/p>\n

He figured that in case the (short) natives got restless as we rode out the storm, we could drown their sorrows in sugar.\u00a0\u00a0Unfortunately, after we opened it, we discovered that there were MANY non-kosher candies in the package. At least half of it was nothing my kids could eat. But since my son\u2019s babysitter is not Jewish and has a candy-loving kid of her own, I asked my daughters to sort out the non-kosher candy for this boy so it wouldn\u2019t go to waste.<\/p>\n

As I watched them sort the pieces one by one, I was filled with amazement and pride. A seven and nine year old, who are quite fond of confections, were willingly giving their perfectly delicious candy to a strange kid for one reason and one reason only: It was not kosher. No muss, no fuss. They were on board with this candied-karban<\/em>\u00a0(sacrifice) because at their tender ages, they are able to exercise self-control for the sake of spirituality.<\/p>\n

I thought of my daughters giving up their candy as I stood in front of the dressing room mirror today at the mall. I went to return a couple of tops, but the store would only give me credit, so I figured I\u2019d try to find something else while I was there. And find I did! An adorable pink sweater dress caught my eye just a moment after I began my search. \u201cBut would it be long enough?\u201d I wondered, as I scurried towards the dressing room.<\/p>\n

Yes. \u00a0If I stretched it a bit \u2013 it was a stretchy sweater material \u2013 it would cover my knees, which is what most Orthodox authorities believe a skirt should do in order to adhere to the laws of Jewish modesty. But, it was a bit baggy in this size. Still cute, still wearable, but not perfect.<\/p>\n

So I tried a size down, and it looked\u00a0awesome<\/em>! \u201cNot bad for a lady with four kids!\u201d I thought to myself. It was fitted but not tight \u2013 just figure flattering. But in this size, no way, no how would it stretch to cover my knees. As I stood there in the dressing room, in my clunky snow boots and dark tights, with my above-the-knee dress, I noticed that while I looked \u201cattractive,\u201d I certainly did not look \u201covertly sexual.\u201d<\/p>\n

And for a brief moment, I felt a longing, probably the kind of longing my daughters felt as they sorted the candy.\u00a0This is perfectly good, but it is not for me.\u00a0<\/em>See, I don\u2019t only see\u00a0tznius<\/em>\u00a0(Jewish modesty), as a way of keeping certain parts of myself away from public consumption. I\u00a0also<\/em>\u00a0see it as a way of tempering my vanity. Reminding me that everything physical in this world is fleeting, including my looks. Neither this outfit, nor my body will last \u2013 but the choices I make for spiritual reasons, those I believe have the power to transcend this world.<\/p>\n

Thankfully, I have many\u00a0tznius<\/em>\u00a0outfits that I feel beautiful and stylish in, but those boundaries from the Talmud, which might seem arbitrary at times \u2013 elbows, knees, no plunging neckline \u2013 they force me to exercise a restraint that goes beyond what my own moral compass might guide me to do. And although there\u2019s that tinge of pain of not getting to do something that I both want to do and have the ability to do, what I gain instead is knowing that I am learning to master my baser instincts in an effort to live for a Higher purpose.<\/p>\n

Because serving my Creator is more important than serving my vanity, my taste buds, my\u00a0exhaustion, or whatever else my body wants to do that Jewish law conflicts with. And although there is a slight loss on one level, what I\u2019m mostly filled with is pleasure. By exercising my free will towards a spiritual goal, I feel uniquely human\u2013pulled towards the physical but with the power to overcome it and transcend it completely.<\/p>\n

In a funny way this is actually quite similar to my husband\u2019s survivalism. In both cases, although the easiest thing is to be lazy, there\u2019s an awareness that the only route to true pleasure and a sense of accomplishment is through pushing past one\u2019s physical limits, or overcoming one\u2019s physical desires. But I prefer the spiritual route. It transcends our fleeting world \u2014 and involves less mouse-eating.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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