{"id":20665,"date":"2011-12-07T23:16:51","date_gmt":"2011-12-07T23:16:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ou.org\/life\/?p=20665"},"modified":"2015-11-05T08:25:52","modified_gmt":"2015-11-05T13:25:52","slug":"a-good-cry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/inspiration\/a-good-cry\/","title":{"rendered":"A Good Cry"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Leah\u2019s eyes, the Bible tells us, are delicate from so many tears. Tears shed, tradition teaches, for good reason. First, the town gossips in Padan-Aram wagged like caricatures (and not off-base ones, even if too unkind) of the matchmaker in Anatevka: Laban\u2019s two daughters would be matched to Isaac\u2019s two boys. Esau and Leah. Jacob and Rachel.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-post-20665 wp-image-20666\" title=\"Girl Crying\" src=\"http:\/\/ou.org\/life\/files\/Girl-Crying-300x210.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"210\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/files\/Girl-Crying-300x210.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.ou.org\/life\/files\/Girl-Crying.jpg 414w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Still, Jacob never favors Leah. At the final confrontation between Esau, his 400 men and Jacob\u2019s family, numbering less than two dozen, including children and an old nurse, Rachel, as Jacob\u2019s most precious, is symbolically (it probably wouldn\u2019t have mattered much had it come to blows) placed at the rear.<\/p>\n<p>Leah, more than any of the matriarchs (perhaps more than anyone in the Bible until Hannah) is most aware of the good in her life. She is, after all not married to Esau. Each time she names a child, it acknowledges the good G-d did.<\/p>\n<p>Moreover, tradition teaches that at the same time Leah carried Benjamin, Rachel carried Dina. Knowing Rachel wouldn\u2019t even bear Jacob as many sons as the maids, Leah prayed again. And tradition teaches an angel switched the children in utero.<\/p>\n<p>There are two political lessons here. One, as Leah teaches us is that even when things aren\u2019t perfect, there is much good. There is much to be thankful for and much help, friendship, assistance and aid to acknowledge. Leah does not rail at G-d or Jacob that her dreams remain unfulfilled. She thanks G-d for the good.<\/p>\n<p>And she pulls back from a seventh son. Whatever the pain she feels or hurt she endures, she will not allow herself to cause eternal pain to her sister. Better Jacob to love her less but Rachel shan\u2019t be lessened on her account. (In this sense, Leah foreshadows Alistair Cooke\u2019s observation that \u201ca professional is someone who can do his best work when he doesn\u2019t feel like it.\u201d)<\/p>\n<p>All too often we look at what\u2019s broke in the political system. Taxes too high (some say too low). Our civil liberties are threatened or our security apparatus is too lax. This is especially so when we look at our political opponents, as individuals or as parties and movements. We see the negative, the bombast, the fringe and the silly. We fail to acknowledge the positive, laud the service and excuse the freaks. In legislative and electoral battle, we go for the killing blow, unwilling to save our opponents any dignity.<\/p>\n<p>But Leah teaches that we ought to focus on the good, even as we try to make better what is wrong. Our hurt and anger don\u2019t excuse or allow us to destroy another\u2019s future.<\/p>\n<p>Political lessons, but equally applicable in our daily lives.<\/p>\n<p>Words to consider, ideas to ponder \u2013 politics and the parsha.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leah, second choice to her own husband, looked for the positive in life. 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