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Every year around this time I begin to look at my children appraisingly. I assess them, like a census taker for gender, height, weight and coloring. Then, armed only with a pen and a pad and the workings of my agitated mind, I sit alone in a room and think.<\/p>\n

I am thinking, of course, of Purim costumes. And how this year, finally, my family will join the ranks of those most organized of families, those paragons of virtue, those models of creative efficiency, The Ones With The Themes. This year, I resolve, my children will be dressed in unison, my mishloach manot foods will match their costumes and the whole pretty package will be topped off with a perfectly rhymed poem, explaining the relevance of this theme and how it ties into both medieval Shushan HaBira and the year 2009.<\/p>\n

Then after some hours of feverish scratching and scrawling in the darkened room, I emerge with my notebook and my list of idea. \u201cHi guys!\u201d I call brightly to my children in the kitchen. They look at me suspiciously. They have calendars and they know what time of year it is. \u201cSo, listen up,\u201d I say undaunted by their narrowed eyes. \u201cI\u2019ve got some ideas for Purim costumes here!\u201d<\/p>\n

Then I clear my throat and begin to read. \u201cSo what do you say, we can be Indians or cowboys or a baseball team! Animals in the zoo! Different types of shampoo! Girls dressed as boys and boys dressed as girls! All the different brachot! The seasons of the year! Pandas and kangaroos!<\/p>\n

There is silence at the table. I realize that I am shouting and my children look a little frightened. I take a deep breath and begin my sales pitch again. \u201cWe can be bees and flowers! We can hand out honey! Or exotic vegetables! Or circus performers!\u201d<\/p>\n

There is no response. \u201cWhat about types of law enforcement!\u201d I call out desperately, my eyes darting from side to side. \u201cOr characters from Tanach! Major household appliances! Continents of the world! What do you say guys?\u201d I am hoarse by now and the list is almost finished.<\/p>\n

\u201cCome on kids,\u201d I plead and I turn to my husband for encouragement. His lips are pursed and he shakes his head sadly. Then silently but decisively he turns his back and begins to wash the dishes. I scowl at his back. Stick in the mud! Party Pooper! I can see that I will have to go it alone.<\/p>\n

\u201cCome on you guys,\u201d I say again, weakly.<\/p>\n

\u201cI want to be a butterfly!\u201d my three year old says. I sigh. \u201cBut you were a butterfly last year,\u201d I say.<\/p>\n

\u201cI know,\u201d she answers, smiling proudly, \u201cand I really, really liked it.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd I want to be Queen Esther,\u201d says my six year old.<\/p>\n

\u201cBut, hey,\u201d I wheedle, \u201cEveryone is gonna be Queen Esther. Wouldn\u2019t you like to be different? Wouldn\u2019t you like to be a washing machine?\u201d I smile crazily.<\/p>\n

A puzzled look crosses my daughter\u2019s face. \u201cNo, Mommy,\u201d she says gently, slipping her little hand in mine. \u201cPeople are not washing machines. People use washing machines for clothing. See?\u201d<\/p>\n

I have just been schooled by a six year old. I nod glumly.<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd, I\u2019m gonna be a soldier,\u201d my eleven year old says. He is bored with this conversation. He\u2019s heard it repeated every year since he was born. \u201cHow about a quarterback instead?\u201d I ask, thinking wistfully of the gigantic shoulder pads still sewn into my Sheva Brachot outfits.<\/p>\n

\u201cNope. A soldier,\u201d he answers. \u201cSorry.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s okay,\u201d I whisper, although it is not and I think spitefully of all the things I\u2019ve done for them over the years. Can\u2019t they do this one little thing for me?<\/p>\n

I turn to my nine year old, my easy- going, pliable boy. Happy go lucky, accommodating, willing\u2026. In short, my last hope. \u201cWhat do you say sweetie?\u201d I ask. \u201cWanna be a Chinaman?\u201d<\/p>\n

And his eyes are so soft and so kind as he looks at me. And his voice is so gentle and so sweet as he says, \u201cI really want to be a pineapple.\u201d<\/p>\n

A pineapple? Who wants to be a pineapple? I wonder. And how is that better than a knight or a Chinaman or a dishwasher or a quarterback? But I am a grown up now so I don\u2019t say everything I think. I only sigh and get to work manufacturing the necessities for soldiers and butterflies and pineapples and queens.<\/p>\n

And on Purim when the families with the themes come to my door all dressed in their matching orangutan outfits, I suffer a pang of jealousy. Then I turn from the door and I look at my children\u2019s shining faces, their eager pride, their joyous sense of self and I know that I did the right thing. Because flitting around my house is the most delicate butterfly, the most beautiful queen, the sweetest pineapple and the bravest soldier.<\/p>\n

And really, who wants a bunch of orangutans anyway?<\/p>\n

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Yael Zoldan is a Brooklyn girl, who lives in Passaic, New Jersey, with her husband and children. Somewhere between carpool and laundry she finds the time to write.<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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