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Still Single? Maybe Your Local Government can Help

February 2, 2015, by

The local council of Beit El has come up with an original way to deal with the bachelorhood issue in the community: The council has begun employing matchmakers to help single women start a family in Israel. The initiative was launched following the rise in the number of unmarried women aged 23 to 30. The

Too Smart to Get Married

December 23, 2014, by

I got a call from a fellow who said, “Rebbe, you have to help me.” “Sure, sure. What’s up?” I replied. “Well, I was set up with this girl, and I think that I’m going to fall for her.” “That’s great. So what’s the problem?” “What’s the problem? That’s the problem. She’s not what I’m

The Bashert Test

December 18, 2014, by

One of the greatest challenges in life is finding the balance between bitachon and histadlus—recognizing that HASHEM runs the world, yet actively doing our part. If this is difficult in many situations, it is much more so when it comes to choosing a spouse. The question is: what is the correct approach when dating? The

Why You Should Ruin Your Shidduch Chances

November 6, 2014, by

This post originally appeared on popchassid.com. Note: I am utterly unqualified to write this post. I just want to tell you what you already know, so that you understand I also know this. I went through the shidduch system very briefly, because my wife set herself up with me and we had known each other

Met Through NCSY: The Riesels’ Story

March 13, 2014, by

Finding one’s spouse can be a daunting process, but for the Riesels it was nothing short of miraculous. They had G-d guiding them with NCSY unwittingly acting as their matchmaker. Because Heshy Riesel grew in up in a Hasidic household and Rochelle Cohen grew up in a non-observant home, there weren’t many chances for them to meet. If  anything, they were

Ask Aviva: In Love and Texting

March 6, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I keep hearing marriage lectures that say texting your spouse throughout the day is not good because it will make you run out of things to say when you see each other, or otherwise lead to misunderstanding. What’s your opinion? — In Love and Texting Dear In Love and Texting, The only time you

Ask Aviva: Shidduch Stalker

February 3, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I really need help. I was set up with a guy last year and we dated for two months. We clicked really well, and then he suddenly ended it. I was crushed. I have been doing my best to get over him, but I find myself checking up on him all the time.

I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married

October 2, 2013, by

Like most Hasidic Jews, our dating period lasted a very short time. After two months, we were engaged and three months after that, we were married. This fire was burning in me: I was in love…. But then we got married, and everything changed.

“High-Tech Matchmaking Gets Rabbinic Approval”

January 24, 2013, by

Steve Savitsky talks with Moshe Coan about Zivug Zone, a new online dating service that “[utilizes] scientific research that supports ‘the compatibility principle,'” creating a unique matching system that only shows highly compatible profiles–saving you so much more than just time.