One of the most famous paradoxes in Judaism, which ties into this week’s Parshat Re’eh, is Hillel’s statement in the first chapter of Ethics of our Fathers: “If I am not for myself then, Who will be for me?” Hillel clearly states that we must be autonomous, independent and not rely on others for our
Dear Aviva, I have a wonderful dear friend who is amazing in all ways except for just one. But that one is a biggie, as it is one of the Ten Commandments! My friend is a coveter. She covets the things in my home, my car, my style—you name it! At times I find it
Many parents tell me: My kids are always misbehaving! My kids are so irresponsible! My kids act all entitled! My children are so impatient! They want everything and they want it right away! And I tell them that kids are still kids. They are still learning how to behave. They are going to act irresponsibly
Dear Aviva, I don’t know what to make of my marriage. It seems bipolar! When it’s good, it’s unbelievably amazing. When it’s bad, it gets ugly and feels like Gehinom. I don’t think this is normal… What should I do? -Roller Coaster Ride Dear Roller Coaster Ride, Oy, this doesn’t sound like a fun ride.
Does it seem like kids meltdown and tantrum more in the summer? It may be because of lack of sleep — no kids want to go to sleep when the sun is still out and bed times are usually pushed off. Meal times also aren’t on schedule — not to mention the never-ending heat and humidity.
Two years ago, The New York Times featured an article written by Bruce Feiler that discussed the work of Marshall Duke, a psychologist at Emory University. Duke explored ritual and myth in American families and discovered something surprising: children who know a lot about their families and their histories tend to do better when they
Dear Parents: I appreciate your taking the time to read these thoughts. I hope they will be helpful to you and to your family. The ideas discussed here are relevant twelve months a year. I am especially moved to share them now, in the weeks leading up to the summer, as it is important to
“You better do your homework or else!” “If you don’t get yourself into the car you are punished for life!” “You better march yourself into Mark’s room and apologize for calling him names or you can forget about going to Sara’s birthday party!” Does this sound familiar? Parents often resort to using threats with their
This article first appeared on the blog for Baltimore Therapy Center. There is a difference of opinions out there as to whether it is important to use the proper names for private parts when teaching children about their bodies and discussing sexual abuse issues (i.e., not the latest news story but what they need to
Dear Aviva, I have reached the “empty nest” stage with my husband. I’ve always looked forward to the days when I would be able to have my adult children with their kids for yomim tovim. While my dreams have mostly been met—I am blessed to have all four of my children married with children of their own,