Infertility Etiquette

November 25, 2014, by

This article originally appeared on Many of our young men and women of marriageable age assume that when a couple decides it is time to start a family, it is simple to conceive and bring a healthy baby into the world. In fairness, they have good reason for making that assumption. Growing up they

Sometimes We Do the Opposite

November 25, 2014, by

Everyone knows we’re not allowed to kill, right? After all, it’s one of the “Big Ten” commandments. Not exactly. What we’re not allowed to do is murder. Sometimes we actually have to kill. For example, if a violent person is pursuing an innocent victim with the intention of murdering him, we’re supposed to kill the

Stop Playing God

November 25, 2014, by

Eighty percent of our emunah problems and ninety percent of our questions on Hashem stem from one mistake—we play God. Playing God means I know exactly what I need. I need to marry that woman. I need that job. I need my child to get into that school. I’ve talked to Hashem about it. I’ve

North American Synagogues Answer Har Nof Terror with Heartfelt Prayer

November 20, 2014, by

The horrific attack in Har Nof made this a most difficult week in Israel, and for Jews around the world. Conventional wisdom has it that no two humans are separated by any more than six degrees of separation. But most any member of a Jewish community knows that just two — perhaps three — points,

Reflections from a Har Nof Neighbor

November 20, 2014, by

We heard the ambulances. We heard there was a terrorist attack. Then we heard it was at our shul down the road. We got a phone call from Chaya Levine asking my husband to please look at the shul next door to see if Rav Kalman was there. My husband had davened neitz with him

The Har Nof Synagogue Attack: A Personal Account

November 20, 2014, by

Dear Friends, Yesterday at about 7am my daughter Miri called. “Mordechai just came home from shul. He said that Arabs came in and are shooting, and that a man with an axe is hitting everyone. Some of the people threw chairs at them, but it didn’t help”. The twelve year old had hit the floor

Ask Aviva: Cosmetologist or College?

November 20, 2014, by

My illustrator Talya Weinberg, and I are shocked and dismayed by the Har Nof massacre. It particularly stings, as she and I have safely walked the streets of Har Nof, never imagining that such an event could possibly take place. We pray for our nation to live in peace and security. Dear Aviva, I’m in

A Good Reason Not to Lose Faith in the Rabbinate – the Rebbetzins

November 20, 2014, by

This article originally appeared on In the wake of the recent horrific rabbinic scandal there has been a loud call for the inclusion of more women’s voices in the administration of the Mikvah, involvement in conversion protocols, oversight of the rabbi, and leadership of the Jewish community. There is no doubt that women have

Hashem Loves You More than You Love Yourself

November 19, 2014, by

The Chovos HaLevavos explains that in order to have bitachon, you must realize that Hashem cares about you in a very real way. You must appreciate that Hashem is deeply concerned for your good. And you must know that Hashem loves you. But Hashem doesn’t care about you as a mortal cares about you. Hashem

Orthodox Union and RCA Request Communal Tehillim Tonight

November 18, 2014, by

We are all deeply shocked and saddened by the horrific terrorist attack this morning upon the Kehillat Yaakov shul in the Har Nof neighborhood of Jerusalem. The murderers violated the kedushat makom tefilah and kedushat zman tefilah. In doing so, they desecrated batei knesset everywhere. The leadership of the Orthodox Union and the Rabbinical Council