Admitting “I Don’t Know”

December 24, 2014, by

This post originally appeared at Do you think normalizing relations with Cuba is a good idea or a poor one? Will it support and help the people of Cuba while strengthening America’s interests? Or does negotiating embolden a dictator and endanger the lives of Americans abroad? What is your position on the lack of

Ask Aviva: Pining for Piercing

December 24, 2014, by

Dear Aviva I am an orthodox married woman who likes to think outside the box, but still within halachic confines of Orthodoxy. My creative and artistic side is yearning to get a nose ring, but my serious and self-conscious side is telling me to stop that nonsense! If it is not halachically wrong (which it

The Miracle Mikveh

December 23, 2014, by

At 16 Whalepond Road, right next door to Sha’are Tefilah (the Eatontown Shul), is where you’ll find the brand new Jherin Esther Gorcey Mikveh. The story of its construction is one of heartfelt prayers, bitter tears, and incredible miracles. As this “miracle mikveh” now reaches its final stages of completion, it behooves us to hear

Things Never Said

December 23, 2014, by

A young boy runs his fingers over the leather spine of the story book he receives as a Hanukkah gift. He loves the feel of the beautiful lettering playing beneath his fingers. He is entranced by the beautiful illustrations accompanying the stories. He gives no thought to the extra hours his father worked in order

Too Smart to Get Married

December 23, 2014, by

I got a call from a fellow who said, “Rebbe, you have to help me.” “Sure, sure. What’s up?” I replied. “Well, I was set up with this girl, and I think that I’m going to fall for her.” “That’s great. So what’s the problem?” “What’s the problem? That’s the problem. She’s not what I’m

The Jewish N Word

December 18, 2014, by

Language is a funny thing. Words that were once acceptable take on new shades of meaning and are replaced with new terms. These intended euphemisms may in turn acquire their own negative connotations and they will then be replaced with still newer terms. An inoffensive example: what was once called a boneyard became a graveyard.

Ask Aviva: Bummed in Burglarville

December 18, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I am almost convinced that the woman I hire to clean my house is stealing from me. Nothing major—small things like my Tide pods or tissue boxes. I am not sure if I want to actually find out if it’s true because I wouldn’t know what to do if it is. First, it

The Bashert Test

December 18, 2014, by

One of the greatest challenges in life is finding the balance between bitachon and histadlus—recognizing that HASHEM runs the world, yet actively doing our part. If this is difficult in many situations, it is much more so when it comes to choosing a spouse. The question is: what is the correct approach when dating? The

Seeing with 20/20 Vision – the Essence of Chanuka

December 17, 2014, by

This article originally appeared on A husband and wife are getting ready to go to sleep. The wife is ready to close her eyes and her husband stands staring at himself in the full-length mirror. “What’s the matter with you?” she says. Come to sleep already.” He turns to her and says, “Look at this,

The Wisdom of the Dreidle Comfort in an Impossible World

December 15, 2014, by

Can a simple top, a delightful toy for children, really speak to me in the aftermath of tragedy? In the aftermath of a Har Nof? Although some might suggest otherwise, questioning how a mere toy, could possibly carry the weight of such an event, I believe that the dreidel in fact can afford insight into