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by Rebbetzin Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky<\/em><\/p>\n

Most matchmakers never planned to become matchmakers. They make one suggestion, it works, and suddenly friends begin calling to ask if they know of others to set up. Before long, they are\u00a0accumulating profiles,\u00a0notes, making introductions, losing sleep over\u00a0daters\u00a0they\u00a0would like\u00a0ideas for, and wondering whether they are really doing this right.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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What if more people had not only the heart for this work, but the skills to match? Shidduchim\u00a0are\u00a0too important to rely upon good intentions alone.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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In recent years, many matchmakers have begun asking\u00a0similar questions: How can I expand my network and make more targeted suggestions?\u00a0Which\u00a0skills do I need to improve to\u00a0be more successful?\u00a0How can I maximize\u00a0results?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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To address these needs,\u00a0YUConnects, with support from the Kol Echad Department of the OU, developed the Master Matchmaker Fellowship\u00a0(MMF),\u00a0a program designed to provide structured training, mentorship, and peer collaboration for both new and experienced matchmakers.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Recent findings from an Orthodox Union (OU) study show that respondents who married between 2010 and 2023 were far more likely than those in previous decades to have had a matchmaker involved at some point during their courtship. Traditionally, matchmakers are engaged to meet with daters and suggest potential matches. Increasingly, however, daters are also turning to experienced matchmakers to facilitate introductions that were originally suggested by friends or family, believing the process will be more effective with professional guidance.<\/div>\n
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Whether matchmakers are generating match ideas themselves or helping advance introductions proposed by others, their growing involvement tells an important story: matchmakers are playing an increasingly significant role in helping people build Jewish homes.<\/div>\n
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At the same time, the research reveals\u00a0three major challenges:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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  1. Demand exceeds capacity. There are simply not enough matchmakers with enough time to meet the growing need.<\/li>\n
  2. Training is limited. Many people involved in making shidduchim are deeply caring and committed but do not have access to formal training or mentorship.<\/li>\n
  3. Professional development is lacking. Even experienced matchmakers need opportunities to sharpen their skills, learn new approaches, and grow alongside peers.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div>\n
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    There is another critical piece to this picture:\u00a0The research finds\u00a0many marriages\u00a0are suggested by a friend or family member, who are not official matchmakers.\u00a0These \u201cdabblers\u201d care deeply and want to contribute meaningfully, but they, too, need guidance on how to best bring their match ideas to fruition.<\/p>\n

    The fellowship was designed for a broad audience, from dabblers to seasoned matchmakers. Virtual modules are taught by experienced matchmakers, therapists, coaches, and rabbinic authorities. Topics range from practical systems for organizing information efficiently to learning how to build trust with their daters.<\/p>\n

    One of the most\u00a0important elements\u00a0of effective matchmaking is networking. Successful matchmakers need trusted colleagues with whom they can brainstorm, consult, and collaborate. This is why the fellowship\u2019s cohort-based structure is so valuable. Beyond the formal curriculum, participants build meaningful and productive relationships and expand their matchmaking networks.<\/p>\n

    The two recent pilot cohorts included participants from across the United States, Canada, and Israel. The\u00a0fellowship\u2019s\u00a0goal\u00a0is\u00a0more\u00a0than\u00a0simply training\u00a0individual matchmakers\u00a0to\u00a0be more\u00a0effective, but\u00a0to\u00a0cultivate\u00a0a more\u00a0successful\u00a0matchmaking community.<\/p>\n

    What Participants Are Saying<\/b><\/p>\n

    The impact of the fellowship is best expressed by those who experienced it firsthand:<\/p>\n

    \u201cI use the content I gained all the time. As I speak with people, different things pop into my head, and I know I got it from here.\u201d<\/p>\n

    \u201cI’ve\u00a0used\u00a0probably dozens of tips from this fellowship\u00a0just in\u00a0the last\u00a072 hours. I feel more confident in my ability to guide the singles in my network.\u201d<\/p>\n

    \u201cI learned so much \u2014 from your organizational suggestions\u00a0to\u00a0how to phrase things. I now have more couples dating than I did before I took this course.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    These reflections highlight something powerful: when matchmakers\u00a0feel equipped having the right training and tools, they can\u00a0immediately\u00a0put them into practice and maximize their effectiveness.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    Looking Ahead<\/b><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    If we want to strengthen the matchmaking ecosystem, we need to invest in the people doing this essential work. Matchmaking is some of the most personalized, thoughtful, and impactful work in our community, and those who dedicate themselves to it deserve meaningful support. The Master Matchmaker Fellowship was created to meet this need. More than a training program, it is an investment in both new and experienced matchmakers gifting them the skills, structure, mentorship, and peer network to succeed and grow.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    As demand for thoughtful introductions and relationship facilitation continues to increase, the fellowship is expanding the community of people equipped to make\u00a0targeted\u00a0matches. By developing matchmakers and strengthening their connections to one another, the Master Matchmaker Fellowship is\u00a0expanding\u00a0the infrastructure that supports more opportunities for people to find meaningful connections\u00a0and foster long lasting marriages.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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    Chazal teach, Kol\u00a0haboneh\u00a0bayis\u00a0echad\u00a0b’Yisrael\u00a0k’ilu\u00a0banah\u00a0achas\u00a0mei’churbos\u00a0Yerushalayim<\/em> – one who helps build a Jewish home is considered as though they have rebuilt one of the ruins of Jerusalem. Every successful shidduch\u00a0represents\u00a0not only the beginning of a new family, but a priceless contribution to the future of the Jewish People. By investing in matchmakers, we are investing in countless future homes, families, and generations yet to come.<\/p>\n

    Visit yuconnects.com\/MMF<\/a>\u202fto learn more and apply for a future cohort.<\/div>\n
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    Nineteen years ago, Rebbetzin Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky helped launch YUConnects, to increase opportunities for men and women interested in dating and relationship building. She holds both a MSW and Ph.D. from Yeshiva University, Wurzweiler School of Social Work. She is married to Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky, Rosh Yeshiva at Yeshiva University and the Rabbi of Congregation Ohr HaTorah in Bergenfield, NJ<\/em><\/div>\n
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    To sign up for the Kol Echad Limited Series E-Magazine, click here:\u00a0https:\/\/www.ou.org\/kolechademail\/<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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