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MISC section - contents:
[1] Vebbe Rebbe
[2] Touch of Wisdom; Touch of Wit
[3] Candle by Day
[4] MicroUlpan
[5] From Aloh Naaleh
[6] Torah Tidbits this 'n that
[7] Torah from Nature
[8] From the desk of the director

[1] From the virtual desk of the OU VEBBE REBBE

The Orthodox Union – via its website – fields questions of all types in areas of kashrut, Jewish law and values. Some of them are answered by Eretz Hemdah, the Institute for Advanced Jewish Studies, Jerusalem, headed by Rav Yosef Carmel and Rav Moshe Ehrenreich, founded by HaRav Shaul Yisraeli zt"l, to prepare rabbanim and dayanim to serve the National Religious community in Israel and abroad. Ask the Rabbi is a joint venture of the OU, Yerushalayim Network, Eretz Hemdah... and the Israel Center. The following is a Q&A from Eretz Hemdah...

Q Our daughter was accepted to a seminary, and we paid $1500 as a non-refundable registration fee to hold a spot. She decided to attend a different institution. When we informed the first seminary, they refused to return the money. Given that another girl has already replaced our daughter, do they have the right to retain the money?

A We wish you in advance nachas from your daughter's spiritual gains during her studies in whatever fine institution she will attend. The willing- ness of people like you to part with their children for a while and spend much hard-earned money has revolutionized our community. We will address both the halachic and moral elements of the question, as Torah institutions should conform to both. We will start with institutions' rationale for this common policy, which is important for both aspects. (We cannot say anything authoritative without hearing both sides' claims in Beit Din.)
Firstly, these institutions incur heavy expenses well before students arrive. This includes transportation for recruitment teams and tens of hours of administrative work to name just a couple of costs which reach tens of thousands of dollars. It is logical that applicants defray costs and that those who complete the process pay more. But $1,500 seems too much for defraying costs.

The main logic of the payment's non- refundable nature is preventative. Often institutions will have fewer students (and less money to pay expenses) if students can freely change their minds. A student's change of decision can have a domino effect on her friends, which can severely damage an institution. Even if they can be replaced numerically, in the meantime, the top wait-listed students usually commit elsewhere. Replacing a few top students with others who are marginally suitable can affect the character of a school's student body and its reputation in the short and even the long term.

The fact that the money is non-refundable also puts the student and parents in a mind-set of certainty about their choice. Then, like an engaged couple, one does not consider changing her mind, unless a serious mistake surfaces. This mind-set usually benefits all. Students remain positive, and seminaries can hire a staff that suits the incoming student body. While $1,500 sounds like a lot (and might be a little high), if it were much lower it would not sufficiently deter cancellation.

Now we can examine the halachic issues. You hired a seminary to teach your daughter. Usually, an employer can break an employment agreement, even if a kinyan was done on it, without paying the salary, if the worker can find alternative employment, i.e. another student (Shulchan Aruch, CM 333:2; see Pitchei Choshen III,10:7). However, there is a rule that conditions made to change standard financial arrangements are binding (Ketubot 56a). You tacitly agreed to the stipulation of non-refund- able payment and made the agreement final by transferring the money unconditionally.
Your only claim is asmachta, that an exaggerated obligation that one accepted because he did not think it would come to fruition is not binding (Choshen Mishpat 207). However, the Shulchan Aruch (ad loc.:11) says that if one already gave money as a guarantee, he cannot demand it back. Although the Rama (ad loc.) argues, one cannot extract money from a muchzak when there is a serious contending position. The seminary may have additional claims to justify their position (see ibid.:16, regarding penalty clauses to prevent damage and Tosafot, Bava Metzia 66a regarding accepted practices). To shorten and over-simplify a complicated matter, it does not appear, based on what we know, that you can halachically demand the money back.

Just as it is a mitzva for you to see the seminary's side of the matter, so it is for them to see your side. If you can convince them that: 1) you were confident your daughter would attend; 2) something arose to turn that into a wrong decision; 3) it turns out they were not seriously damaged by the withdrawal, then we hope they will return much of the deposit.

Ask the Rabbi Q&A is part of Hemdat Yamim, the weekly parsha sheet published by Eretz Hemdah. You can read this section or the entire Hemdat Yamim at www.ou.org or www.eretzhemdah.org. And/or you can receive Hemdat Yamim by email weekly, by sending an email to info@eretzhemdah.org with the message: Subscribe/English (for the English version) or Subscribe/Hebrew (for the hebrew version). Please leave the subject blank. Ask the Vebbe Rebbe is partially funded by the Jewish Agency for Israel

[2] ArtScroll Series • Mesorah Publications Ltd.
A TOUCH OF WISDOM A TOUCH OF WIT by Shmuel Himelstein

When the Chafetz Chaim was a young man, he studied in a small village named Amstivova. There was a poor unfortunate man there who made his meager living by drawing water from the local well and carrying the heavy buckets of water to various people. For some reason, the children of the village made the poor man the butt of their jokes.

Once, in midwinter, the children came up with a new way to torment the man. Each night, on the way home from their learning, they would go to the town well and fill his buckets with water. The first one there the next morning was always the water carrier, and when he arrived he found that the water had frozen solid. Each day he would have to spend time hacking the ice out of the bucket before he could begin to draw water.

When this became know to the Chafetz Chaim, he adopted a new practice. Late each night, after he had finished learning for the day, he would stop by and empty the water bucket back into the well.

Shmuel Himelstein has written a wonderful series for ArtScroll: Words of Wisdom, Words of Wit; A Touch of Wisdom, A Touch of Wit; and"Wisdom and Wit" — available at your local Jewish bookstore (or should be).

[3] Candle by Day

Adults often blame children wrongfully by imputing to them the motives they would have if they were doing what the children were doing. - From A Candle by Day by Rabbi Shraga Silverstein

[4] Micro Ulpan - a word (or two) from HaAcademiya LaLashon Ha-Ivrit

Even when you think you know. How do you say significant in Hebrew? If you say MASHMA-UTI you get only 7 of 10 points. The preferred word, according to you know whom, is MUVHAK, Significance is ,MUVHAKUT, And now you know...
Here's a good one. Electrocardiogram, more commonly known as an EKG (ECG is also used, but EKG is more common - is that because most people can't spell?)
In Hebrew, most will call it an EE-KE-GE, The correct, official Hebrew for EKG is RELACH which stands for RISHMAT LEV CHASHMALIT.

[5] CHIZUK and IDUD (for Olim & not-yet-Olim respectively)

Parshat B'Har opens with a discussion of the laws of Shmita and Yovel (which is also a Shmita). Rashi questions the connection between the Sedra's title and this opening Mitzva, and makes the famous comment, "Ma inyan Shmita eitzel Har Sinai - what connection does Shemita have to Mount Sinai?"

Rashi gives a puzzling answer: "Just as the laws of Shmita were given at Har Sinai, so ALL the Mitzvot and their particulars were delineated at Sinai." Uh, excuse me - ask all the commentators - why should Shmita be singled out as representative of all the Mitzvot? What is so unique and special about the Sabbatical Year?

I suggest to you that there IS something quite unique about Shmita. Of all the Mitzvot, none requires more Emuna than Shmita. For an agricultural society to stop all field work for one or two years is mind-boggling! How will we survive? Who will pay the bills? Amazingly, Hashem guarantees that He will provide enough food to carry us through the fallow years, if only we have faith.

It is this quality of Emuna which is a necessary component of all Mitzvot. To stop work on Shabbat, to strictly keep kosher, to purchase expensive Tefilin, Etrogim or Mezuzot, one must have faith that this is how Hashem wants us to conduct our lives.

Certainly, this faith-factor applies in the fullest sense to the Mitzva of living in Israel. You cannot live here without deep Emuna, without a rock-solid belief that our G-d gave His people a Land for all eternity where we can most fully express our Judaism. Security, stress, economic hardship: all the excuses are valid, yet they melt when met head-on by genuine Emuna.

Some people making Aliya fill their suitcases with white tuna, some with electronics, others with cash. I suggest we are better served by packing our bags with large doses of Emuna.

Rabbi Stewart Weiss, Ra'anana

TORAH THOUGHTS as contributed by Aloh Naaleh members for publication in the Orthodox Union's 'Torah Insights', a weekly Torah publication on Parshat Ha'Shavuah

[6] Torah Tidbits this 'n that

MS writes...
Every Friday I drive into Raanana on my way home to pick up the Torah Tidbits for Kfar Saba, which are left outside BF's front door, from where each shul repre- sentative collects them. Yesterday morning, why I don't know,person or persons unknown, instead of taking their quota, decided to take the whole carton, which containedTT for the whole of Raanana as well as mine. After waiting in vain for the goods to be returned, BF phoned me at about 2:00pm and gave the the bad news: no Torah Tidbits this week....
I couldn't bear the thought and maintained telephone contact with BF. Finally, at about 6:00pm, BF managed to locate the missing Tidbits in a shul in Raanana and recruited a relative to help bring them back. Then, at six thirty (lucky we don't live in Yerushalayim), I jumped into my car and drove like a true Israeli (instead of an Englishman, as I usually do) to Raanana, managing to do the round trip and get back home a few minutes before Shabbat. So all's well that ends well. [Ed. addition: Wonder who named one of his plays that, Mr. Englishman?] Shabbat without Torah Tidbits is just not the same...

A few weeks ago, someone asked a question: If Yom HaSho'a, Yom HaZikaron, and Yom HaAtzmaut are being moved one day later, is the same thing going to be done with Lag BaOmer? The questioner was serious, but I reacted with a chuckle, saying, of course not. Promptly forgot about this exchange, until this past Shabbat, whenI saw fires for Lag BaOmer being set up by non-religious kids on Shabbat and the fires going full blast before Shabbat was over. The question did not seem so "off" as it had when originally asked. Now I'm thinking that it would be a beautiful thing if the rabbis from all parts of the religious community would agree todeclare that when Lag BaOmer falls on Sunday, the traditional bonfires should be done on Sunday evening rather than Motza'ei Shabbat. This measure would reduce Shabbat violation... until all Jews keep Shabbat the way it should be kept.

[7] MAH RABBU MAASECHA HASHEM...

Sea Otter, Enhydra lutris
Semi-aquatic mammal, carnivore... 1.20m long, approx. 30kg. (females weigh less)... strong canine teeth for tearing food, flat molars for crushing... small external ears with excellent hearing capability (useful on land but not so much in the water)... flattened tail, flipper-like hind feet for propulsion, forepaws with retracting claws like a cat's - for grooming & eating... lung size is 2.5 times the size found in land mammals of same size... extremely thick fur - about 600,000 per square inch (93 thousand hairs per sq. cm.)... strong sense of smell... good eyesight both above and below the water... whiskers used to sense vibrations in the water... excellent sense of touch... one of only a few animals known to use tools. Otters use rocks, other shellfish, or man-made objects to pry prey from rocks - they also use tools as hammers or anvils... Otters feed on about 40 different marine invertebrates. They dive up to180 feet foraging for food... Otters must eat the equivalent of 20-25% of their body weight each day in order to maintain a high level of internal heat production. Since they don't have blubber for warmth like other marine mammals, they compensate by generating a high metabolism by eating a lot. Additionally, they depend on their dense fur which they spend a large portion of each day grooming... forcing air bubbles down next to their skin... for insulation and buoyancy.

[8] Divrei Menachem

Parshat B'har introduces us to Sh'mita and Yovel, the Sabbatical Year and the Jubilee Year. The basic concept behind these special years is that by leaving one’s fields unattended and returning lands to their ancestral owners, we recognize that the primary force in the universe is G-d, not Nature.

Like the Shabbat, Sh'mita and Yovel are designed to induce in us dependence on G-d and recognition of His bounty, as well as faith that Hashem will compensate us for “lost income”. Yovel is ushered in by shofar blasts that are identical to those of Rosh Hashana. Thinking about that might well reinforce our realization that what we have, and what we deserve, are in the hands of G-d.

Twice, referring to land sales (affected by the remaining years to the Yovel), the Torah instructs that neither buyer nor seller aggravate one another. According to Rashi, the first directive (Vayikra 25:14) alludes to honest business dealings while the second inference refers to insults and embarrassments (ibid 25:17).These injunctions are followed by the phrase: “For I am the Lord your G-d.”

It seems that the ultimate characterization of a just society is not only one that describes a scaled-down model of private ownership. It is instructive that such a society is also defined by human relationships that are anchored in an authentically Jewish and moral code based on Torah, the source of which is the Source of everything.

Shabbat Shalom Menachem Persoff


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