Kohen - First Aliya - 16 p'sukim - 23:1-16 Avraham comes (some say from the Akeida, from Har HaMoriah; some say from Be'er Sheva) to eulogize Sara and to cry for her. [SDT] LIVKOTAH, and to cry for her, is written with a small KAF. Some take this as a reminder that the crying was "small" since Sara had lived such a long life. There is more crying when a person dies young. Others say that the small KAF allows us to reread the word with regular-sized letters only to obtain a differentunderstanding, on a REMEZ (hint) level. And Avraham came to eulogize Sara U'L'VITAH, and her daughter. This corelates with the opinions that Avraham and Sara had a daughter, but she died when Sara did. Not everyone agrees. Avraham next makes the arrangements for providing a suitable place to bury Sara. (There is a Tradition that Avraham was aware of the burial place of Adam and Chava, and that is the piece of land he was interested in.) He turns to the people of CHEIT, one of whom is known as EFRON. They all exchange niceties and the peopleoffer Avraham any land he wants. He insists on paying and that is what he does for the field and cave of Machpela. Pirkei Avot made famous that Avraham was tested 10 times. But we are not told what the ten tests are. And there different opinions as to which of Avraham's experiencesare considered tests of his faith. Most lists of the 10 end with the Akeida, as implied from the p'sukim themselves. Rabeinu Yona finds a test after the Akeida - Avraham's experience in providing a burial place for Sara. What was so difficult about that, that it should qualify as a test of faith - especially after theAkeida? Perhaps the answer lies in the fact that after the Akeida, Avraham still had a couple of difficult things to go through. Wasn't the Akeida and everything that preceded it enough? No, not finished yet. This can test a person, sometimes, more than terrible trials and tribulations. Surviving the Holocaust did not guarantee a person that he would have an easy life from then on. Some were blessed with trouble-free lives, but most had many more difficulties. We do not know how G-d works. Why must we suffer trials and tribulations in this world? It has something to do with making us better people. With challenging us. With testing us. With preparing our souls for the World of Truth. And probably a lot more. There is another approach to answer the same question. Eulogizing his wife, acquiring a burial place, finding a "shiduch" for Yitzchak - even remarrying Hagar (Ketura) are all "regular", mundane experiences. Can one who spoke repeatedly to G-d, ascended Har HaMori'ah, had a special relationship with G-d - can such a personreturn to being a "normal" human being? This too is a test, and Avraham passed with flying colors. These commentaries point to the pasuk, "And Avraham return to the lads..." as an indication that he was able to "come back down to earth".
Avraham is now at an advanced age and has been blessed greatly by G-d. [SDT] There are many suggestions as to what this extra blessing of BAKOL is. (Everytime we say Birkat HaMazon, we ask G-d to bless us as He blessed our forefathers - BAKOL... Mikol and Kol are terms associated with Yitzchak and Yaakov.) The numeric value of BAKOL 52, the same as BEN, son. This alludes to the ultimate blessing that Avraham received - his son Yitzchak. R. Meir says that Avraham was blessed by not having a daughter. In Avraham's time and in his unique circumstances, who would she have married? What would have happened to her? In this case it was a bracha. R. Yehuda says that Avraham's extra blessing was that he did have a daughter. (As a father of daughters, I can testify that they are indeed a great blessing.) There is even an opinion that his daughter's name was BAKOL. These last two opinions identify BAKOL as Avraham's prominent position in the world. This fits with his role as "father of many nations". Some suggest that Eisav's not sinning and Yishmael's repentance, both during Avraham's lifetime are the extra blessings. There are still other explanations. From the variety of explanations of BAKOL, it is quite clear that Avraham's unique status as the one who restored belief One G-d to the world did not go unrewarded. We can see in this list of blessings, all the different kinds of blessings that can be ours, the spiritual heirs of Avraham Avinu. The one major task remaining, which will forge the next vital link in what promises to be a great people and a great Chain of Tradition, is finding a suitable "shidduch" for Yitzchak. Everything now will depend upon Yitzchak. However great Avraham was, unless there is "solid" continuity, all will be lost. To this end, Avraham calls upon Eliezer to swear that he will faithfully carry out his task, that he will return to Avraham's family and hometown, and find a wife for Yitzchak there. And that Yitzchak is not to leave Eretz Yisrael (having been consecrated on the Mizbei'ach during the Akeida). [SDT] If a father forbids his son to marry a specific woman, the son is not halachically required to listen to his father. The Meshech Chochma finds support for this idea in the fact that Avraham instructed Eliezer that he was not to bring a bride for Yitzchak from among the women of Canaan. Avraham did not, however, command Yitzchak so. Just Eliezer.
[SDT] The Gemara says although Eliezer did not ask properly, G-d answered him properly. Combining the different opinions, let's say that Eliezer's actions were borderline forbidden. Relying on Signs and Omens is forbidden. Yet Eliezer's sign was a reasonable test of the girls. But it could easily have backfired. He wasnot B'SEDER, but G-d "sent" Rivka to him.
Eliezer proceeds to tell the story of his mission. He tells of Avraham and Yitzchak and of being sent to find a wife for Yitzchak. When he asks for Rivka's hand on behalf of his master, Lavan and Betu'el (commentaries point to Lavan's pushing himself beofre his father as an indication of a negative personality) accept allas G-d's will. Eliezer again prostrates himself before G-d in grateful acknowledgment of the success of his mission.
Meanwhile, Yitzchak (having gone to bring Hagar back to Avraham) is in the Negev area and goes "into the field to commune, before evening". (This, we are taught, was the model for Mincha.) As the Rivka-Eliezer caravan approaches from a distance, Rivka sees Yitzchak, jumps down from her camel, and asks Eliezer who the manis. She covers her face with a veil when she is told that the man is her intended husband. Eliezer tells Yitzchak everything that has occurred. Yitzchak takes Rivka as his wife and she becomes a comfort to him for the loss of his mother. For us, she becomes Rivka Imeinu (not yet, but years later).
An question was posed a shiur in the Center. Avraham was the embodiment of CHESED. He gave lavish gifts to Ketura's children. Why did he send Yishmael away with only bread and water. He had to banish Hagar and Yishmael. This was Sara's prophetic command, not merely her personal desire. G-d confirmed that. But give him some camels, a nice tent, food, etc. Just bread and water? Doesn't sound like Avraham. Rabbi Sholom Gold says that the bread and water was sufficient to keep them alive until they reached their destination. More than that would not fit the command from G-d (via Sara) - GAREISH... Banishment is just that. Gifts would not be appropriate. Rabbi Zacharia Dorshav adds that there was a crucial difference between Yishmael and Ketura's children. Yishmael challenged Yitzchak's heritage. He claimed(and in some ways continues to claim) Avraham's legacy. When G-d told Avraham to listen to Sara, He told him to banish them, BECAUSE in Yitzchak will be called your offspring, your descendants. This point had to be made, and a farewell party and lavish provisions for the journey would not have made the point. No such problem with Ketura's children. They made no such claim. They did not dispute Yitzchak's role. They received gifts. Avraham dies at the "ripe old age" of 175 (actually, this is 5 years short of the complete 180 that Yitzchak achieved - various reasons are given for the "lost" 5 years). His was a graceful, good, and fulfilling life (despite the tough times he had). He is buried in the Cave of Machpela, where he had buried Sara. Both Yitzchakand Yishmael take care of the burial. The Torah implies that Yishmael had repented his ways and had become righteous. What greater joy for a father! G-d blesses Yitzchak after Avraham's death. From the fact that Avraham took Ketura only after Yitzchak was married, the Baal HaTurim says that this is the proper thing to do - Marry off your children, before you yourself remarry.
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