Granting Forgiveness

June 24, 2014, by

Q. A few months ago, someone hurt my feelings. Recently he apologized, and I replied with a non-committal answer like, “Don’t worry.” He was upset that I didn’t give him an explicit statement that I forgive him. Do I have to?  A. Sometimes granting forgiveness is as difficult as seeking it. It may seem that […]

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Showing Mercy to No Shows

June 24, 2014, by

Q. In my medical practice, patients often fail to show up for an appointment, show up too late for a complete treatment to be given, or cancel at very short notice. What am I entitled to do?  A. No-shows and late cancellations can be a very frustrating as well as expensive experience for professionals. Yet […]

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When Can I Hold On to Assets

June 24, 2014, by

Q. When I recently did a consulting job for a company, they lent me a digital camera to work with. Now the company is running out of money and can not pay my fee, and I want to keep the camera as security. But the company says I must return it. What should I do?  […]

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Evicting Indigent Tenants

June 24, 2014, by

Q. Is it all right to convert affordable housing into market price rentals, knowing the elderly and disabled cannot afford to remain living there? Would it be better to accept government funding and let the needy remain, or get top dollar for renting the property? A. The mention of evicting the needy conjures up visions […]

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Impatient Patients

June 24, 2014, by

Q. I’m often stuck in the doctor’s waiting room for hours! Doesn’t he owe me something for my wasted time?  A. The Shulchan Arukh (authoritative Code of Jewish Law) states: “One who puts someone into a room and closes the door on him, preventing him from working, is liable for his lost time.” This is […]

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Is the Seller Taking Advantage of Me

June 24, 2014, by

Q. I ordered 1000 personalized address labels and left a deposit, without asking the final cost. When I came to pick up the order, I was scandalized by the seemingly outrageous price and refused to accept them. Now I feel guilty. Do I have to send the store owner the balance?  A. You’re certainly in an awkward […]

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Riches to Rags

June 24, 2014, by

Q. A formerly wealthy family in our congregation has fallen on hard times. Is it appropriate to dip into our charity funds, which are already stretched thin, to help them? A. When the Torah tells us to be generous in giving charity, it uses an interesting expression: “If there should be a needy person from […]

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Defect Disclosure

June 24, 2014, by

Q. If I tell a customer the whole story when he first comes to look at a property, he may lose interest before he becomes aware of its advantages. How far can I put off disclosing some details? A. One thing is certain: any flaws in a purchase item must be made known to the […]

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Crooked Contributions

June 24, 2014, by

Q. A prominent businessman has offered our organization a generous donation. The problem is, his prominence stems from his notorious business practices. Is it proper to accept the money? Can we honor the donor as we do other generous friends, for example with a dinner or a prominent plaque?  A. Did you hear the joke […]

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Stealing Somebody Else’s Mitzvah

June 24, 2014, by

Q. I recently did a kindness for someone. But someone else wanted to do the same kindness, and felt hurt that he was now unable to help. Am I required to forgo an opportunity to do help when I know that someone else would like to do it instead?  A. I think we’re in good […]

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