1,013. The Best Form of Honor

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143:20 A person is obligated to honor his older brother, whether he’s a brother on his father’s side or his mother’s side. A person must likewise honor his father-in-law and mother-in-law as we see from King David, who honored King Saul when he was his father-in-law, calling him “my father” (I Samuel 24:11). One is […]

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1,012. Honoring Step-Parents

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143:18 One is not permitted to hit his grown son. “Grown” does not refer to his age but to his development. If one thinks that his son will oppose him with words or actions, even if he is not yet bar mitzvah, it is forbidden to hit him. Instead, he must only chastise his son […]

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1,011. Demanding Honor

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143:16 One whose father or mother is senile should do his best to humor them until they pass away. If this is not possible because their condition is too advanced, he should leave them and arrange for others to care for them as necessary. 143:17 A person is not allowed to place a heavy burden […]

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1,010. Injuring One’s Parents

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143:14 Whoever shames his father or mother, even if through words or even by a mere hint, is included among those who are cursed by G-d as per Deuteronomy 27:26, “Cursed be the one who disgraces his father or his mother.” 143:15 If a thorn is stuck in one’s father or mother, he should not […]

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1,009. When We Don’t Have to Listen to Parents

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143:12 If a son wants to go to a certain place to study Torah because he feels that it will be better for him than where he is, and his father objects for whatever reason, he is not obligated to listen to his father. This is because Torah study overrides honoring one’s parents, as we […]

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1,008. Violating the Torah

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143:10 If one sees his parent violating a Torah law, he may not say outright, “You have violated a Torah law.” Rather, he should ask, “Father, doesn’t the Torah say such-and-such?”  By appearing as if he is seeking information from his parent and not reprimanding him, the parent will get the message and will not […]

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1,007. Honoring a Parent After Death

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143:8 A person is obligated to honor his parents even after their death. If one mentions them within 12 months of their passing, whether verbally or in writing, he says or writes, “Behold I am their atonement from the grave,” the intention of which is, “Let all the evil that is deserving to come upon […]

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1,006. Standing for Parents

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143:6 Let’s say that someone’s mother asked him to do a certain thing and he complied, and then his father asked him, “Who told you to do this?”  If the son feels that saying it was his mother will make his father angry at her, he should not tell him that she told him to […]

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1,005. Waking One’s Parents

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143:4 If one’s parent was sleeping and the keys to the child’s business were under their pillow, he is not permitted to wake them, even if he will lose a lot of money. However, if the parent will profit by being awoken and not doing so will upset him, then it is a mitzvah to […]

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1,004. What is Honor?

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143:2 What is the deference one must show his parents? One may not stand in their designated places nor sit in their designated seats. One may not contradict them, nor corroborate their words in their presence, not even by saying, “My father’s opinion makes sense.” To what extent must we show them such deference? If […]

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