1,038. Bentching at a Wedding

July 22, 2014, by

148:4 An “acquisition” may not be made on Shabbos, so if a marriage is held on Friday, they must be very careful that the seclusion (yichud) is done before Shabbos. Therefore, so long as the yichud was done in the daytime, they may have their first marital relations on Shabbos, whether she is a virgin […]

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1,037. Chuppas Niddah

July 21, 2014, by

148:2 A virgin is married through seclusion (yichud) even if she is not able to have relations, such as if she is menstruating, or if people are entering and exiting the room. If she is menstruating, then it is required that people come and go because otherwise it would be forbidden for the groom to […]

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1,036. The Yichud Room

July 21, 2014, by

147:5 They lead the groom under the chuppah – again, that’s the canopy suspended on poles – and, with him facing east, the shaliach tzibbur sings whatever is appropriate according to the local practice. The bride’s attendants lead her in. The groomsmen and other notable people walk to greet the bride and, as they draw […]

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1,035. The Chuppah

July 21, 2014, by

147:3 The custom when a virgin gets married is for the important people of the city to spread the veil over her head and to bless her, saying, “Our sister, may you be the mother of thousands and ten of thousands.” After this, we spread a canopy over poles and the couple publicly enter it […]

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1,034. Marrying Under the Stars

July 21, 2014, by

147:1 It is customary to hold the wedding ceremony under the sky as a sign of blessing, that the couple’s offspring should be as numerous as the stars in the sky. Similarly, it is customary to get married when the moon is waxing as a symbol of good things. 147:2 It is proper not to […]

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1,033. Pre-Wedding Repentance

July 11, 2014, by

146:3 On the days when the bride and groom don’t fast, they must be careful not to have too much food or drink. They should certainly avoid alcohol because some authorities say that the reason they fast is out of concern that they may become intoxicated and not have full control of their faculties. 146:4 […]

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1,032. Fasting Before the Wedding

July 11, 2014, by

146:1 The practice is for a groom and bride (even a widower and a widow – Mishnah Brurah 573:8) to fast on their wedding day because on this day they are forgiven for their sins. At mincha, they say “Aneinu” as on other fasts. (If they already drank from the cup at the chupah, they […]

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1,031. When Siblings Are Both Getting Married

July 11, 2014, by

145:25 The Sages said that a person should marry off his children close to puberty because if they are left unmarried, they will come to inappropriate behavior and thoughts. Regarding this, Job 5:24 says, “you shall visit your habitation and not sin.” Similarly, the Sages said that if a man sees that his wife isn’t […]

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