1,043. An Improper Custom

149:10 One may not gaze directly at the bride, but one may look at her jewelry and at her hairdo.

149:11 Some have the practice that if the bride was ritually impure at the time of the wedding, then later, on the night when she goes to the mikva, they make a meal and invite also extra guests; this practice is not proper and should be abolished because it is immodest. However, if one makes a small meal for the family and they recite “she’hasimcha b’m’ono,” one should not object to this. Actual sheva brachos, however, are only recited in the circumstances described earlier in this chapter.