1,047. If Sefarim are in the Room

July 28, 2014, by

150:5 A man is not permitted to stare at his wife’s genitals as doing so is considered brazen and immodest. It desensitizes one to shame, which is a necessary deterrent to sin as per Exodus 20:17, “so that fear of Him shall be before you,” which refers to the shame that keeps a person from […]

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1,046. If the Lights Are On

July 28, 2014, by

150:3 One is not allowed to have marital relations with a light on, even if it is blocked by a garment, but if he makes a partition ten handbreadths high (about 30 inches) between them and the light, then it is permitted. (The partition must be tied down at the bottom so that it does […]

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1,045. Marital Relations

July 28, 2014, by

150:1 A man should accustom himself to have extra holiness, pure thoughts and proper intentions when engaging in marital relations. He should not be light-headed or vulgar with his wife, not even when they are in private. Based on Amos 4:13, “and declares to man what is his conversation,” the Sages derive that even the […]

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1,044. The First Year of Marriage

July 28, 2014, by

149:12 One who marries a virgin (i.e., a  previously unmarried woman) rejoices with her for seven days, which are called “the seven days of feasting.” He should not work or transact business publicly; rather, he should eat, drink and rejoice with his wife. This is so whether he it is his first marriage or if […]

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1,043. An Improper Custom

July 28, 2014, by

149:10 One may not gaze directly at the bride, but one may look at her jewelry and at her hairdo. 149:11 Some have the practice that if the bride was ritually impure at the time of the wedding, then later, on the night when she goes to the mikva, they make a meal and invite […]

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1,042. Remarrying One’s Ex-Wife

July 28, 2014, by

149:8 If a man remarries his ex-wife, “she’hasimcha b’m’ono” is not recited. Sheva brachos are recited at the wedding meal only and not at any subsequent meal. 149:9 It is a mitzvah to rejoice with the bride and groom, and to dance before the bride, saying that she is beautiful and graceful so that she […]

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1,041. More Sheva Brachos Scenarios

July 22, 2014, by

149:6 If a person invites the couple for a meal and he designates a room where they can be alone together alone and rejoice, this is considered like the chuppah and they recite sheva brachos. If not, then they don’t even recite “asher bara” and “she’hasimcha b’m’ono.” 149:7 If those who attended the wedding later […]

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1,040. A Second Marriage for Both

July 22, 2014, by

149:4 If a widower married a widow and they had the first meal on the day of the wedding, they recite sheva brachos as described in 149:1 even if the meal isn’t finished until the night. However, if they didn’t eat until the night, and if there are friends joining in order to make them […]

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1,039. New Faces for Sheva Brachos

July 22, 2014, by

149:2 If a bachelor married a virgin (i.e., a woman who was never before married) or a widow, or if a widower married a virgin, they still recite sheva brachos at the wedding meal, even if they didn’t eat during the day of the wedding, just in the night that’s after the wedding day – or […]

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