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November 04, 2009
Paying Babysitters on Time - Jewish Law
By Rabbi Yosef Fleischman
Question:
I hired a babysitter to watch my children. Must I pay the babysitter as soon as I return? Does it make a difference if the babysitter asks for the money or not and if she is a child or an adult?

Answer:
The Torah (Vayikro 19, 13) requires one to pay his employee within the time period when the employee finishes his job. There are two time periods in a calendar day: the day and the night. Therefore, if one hires a babysitter to work from eight at night until midnight, he must pay the babysitter before the end of the night. [The end of the night is at first light (alos hashacher in Hebrew) which is about seventy-two minutes before sunrise.] Therefore, if you don’t pay the babysitter upon your return, you will need to bring her the money before daybreak.

One should not treat this matter lightly. One who does not heed this requirement violates both a positive and a negative commandment. (Vayikro 19, 13; Devorim 25, 24-15) The mitzvo of eating matzo on the night of Seder or blowing shofar on the first day of Rosh Hoshono is only a positive commandment and yet no one would skip these mitzvos. Therefore, certainly, this mitzvo, which is backed by both a positive and a negative commandment, shouldn’t be neglected.

The Zohar (Parshas Kedoshin) states explicitly that the punishment for one who doesn’t pay on time is to perish before his allotted time and the reward for one who observes this commandment scrupulously is that Hashem will add to his lifetime.

In general, one is not required to pay his employee on time unless the employee requests payment. The reason is because one may waive a monetary right (mechelo). Usually, we interpret one’s failure to request payment as a sign that the employee waived his right to receive payment immediately.

The Chofetz Chaim (Ahavas Chesed, Volume 1, Chapter 9, Section 1 and the footnotes) states that one must be honest and realistic in determining whether the employee really meant to waive his right. For example, if the employee is weak and timid, one cannot assume he meant to waive his right. Generally, children, even if they reached bas mitzvo do not have the temerity to request payment. Therefore, even if the babysitter did not ask for payment one must pay on time.

Often one hires a babysitter who is under the age of bas mitzvo. One might entertain the thought that he does not have to pay minors on time. The Chofetz Chaim (ibid. section 5) addresses this issue as well and rules unequivocally that there is no difference between minors and adults. The Rashbo (Responsum; Volume 3, responsa 99) in fact writes that one who withholds wages from a child is classified as a thief by the Torah in the same manner as one who withholds an adult’s wages.

There is one frequent situation where one would not violate this prohibition. The mitzvo of paying an employee on time does not apply if at the time of employment it was stipulated that the remuneration will be paid at a later date. Therefore, if one tells the babysitter she will return late but the babysitter need stay only until a specified time, it is clear that the babysitter will not be paid immediately upon completion of the job. In this situation, the babysitter agreed at the time she was hired to accept payment at a later date. Since this was a condition that was stipulated at the time the babysitter was hired, it is valid even if the employee is a minor. Nonetheless, even in this situation it is proper to leave her pay on the premises and allow the girl to take her payment at the time she departs so that she will not to wait for her pay. (Shach 339,2 in the name of the Sefer Hachassidim)

Rabbi Yosef Fleischman is head of the Kollel Choshen Mishpat - Institute for Dayanim, Jerusalem, Israel.

The Institute for Dayanim is pleased to answer queries from the general public regarding monetary and business halachah, and to offer advice regarding the drafting of halachically valid contracts, wills etc.
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Recent Comments

What's correct in when a parent reserves a babysitter ahead of time for a particular time period and then cancels at the last minute? It seems to me that the babysitter should receive some payment as she likely could have accepted another baby sitting job.

Susie posted on 11/06 at 12:39 AM.

It is a credit to the Jewish people that this matter, seemingly trivial, is posted on a major website. It shows how our adherence to mitzvot in the most mundane cases leads us to a more upright life.

Who knows how many thieves (white- or blue-collar) or otherwise greedy, dishonest individual started their wrongdoing in everyday situations, only to be emboldened by their success to go after larger targets?

Shabbat Shalom.

Gary posted on 11/06 at 06:36 AM.

What about on Shabbos? The Aruch Shulchan says you can pay a babysitter on shabbos, because there is a sakanah. When should you pay the babysitter?

yitz posted on 11/06 at 09:22 AM.

Blessed Rabbi Yosef Fleischman: I enjoyed reading about your article on rightful wages, and was prompted to humbily ask your opinion about a particular scripture "Honor your Mother and Father, that your days may be more", and about when a parent gives his word, that if his debt to his child is not fulfilled by a certain date, that the property that was purchased, for both parents, if he dies, and the other parent occupies that property, can that parent take out a protection action against her own child in order to claim the property just for herself, knowingly that a verbal consent by the other parent was made to his daughter, is this daughter able to take legal action against her own so-called mother, would she be liable in G-ds, eyes, not honoring her, eventhough, this parent, apparently wants nothing to do with her own child, and lying in court, stating that her husband bought the property all by himself. Thank you in advance, for your remarks, Shalom.... Y'shrael...forever....ritz.

Ritz Gonzalez posted on 11/06 at 02:28 PM.

If you can't pay the babysitter because of Shabot, pay in advance. If you forget, pay after havdola.

laiib posted on 11/06 at 04:46 PM.

This really isn't such a trivial thing. Not paying on time may be a temptation to steal, a willful act. More commonly, it lends easily to passive forgetfulness. Forgetfulness allows debt to snowball possibly beyond the ability to pay. For that omission many will pay for a long time.

David Francis posted on 11/07 at 11:24 AM.

A babysitter - like a doctor, lawyer, or accountant - sells time and skills. These persons' time should not be taken without payment, i.e., as a gift, even if they're willing to make the gift, unless one literally cannot pay and has said so.

In the event that one has to cancel at the last minute, one should offer at least 50% of the amount at issue, or 100%, if one can afford to do so. The reason: it shows respect for the person, whom you've had to inconvenience. Be assured, that if you do this, that person will continue to be willing to attend to your needs.

If a babysitter is needed on Shabbos - and the person is known to you - you should make the entire payment before Shabbos. If the babysitter is not known to you, you might offer to pay half in advance and half when Shabbos ends or on Sunday. If you can add a dollar or two to the second half, this, too, will show consideration. The amount is small but the impact is big.

Jay E. Simkin posted on 11/07 at 07:11 PM.

Response to Susie (11/06 at 12:39 AM.)
If one committed oneself to employ someone one may not back out without a valid reason.
In the event that one did back out, if the babysitter was indeed offered another job and turned it down because of the first offer, which was then subsequently cancelled, the babysitter does indeed have a valid claim for the wages that she could have earned from the other offers. However, a deduction is made to take into account the fact that the baysitter did not have to actually work at all. This deduction is calculated by estimating how much a person in such a situation would be willing to forgo from their wages in order not to have to work.
So for example, Mrs Smith reserved Sarah to babysit for her on Tuesday evening. Subsequently, Sarah turned down another offer from someone else, assuming that she was already booked for the evening. Mrs Smith cancelled at the last minute, and it's too late for Sarah to get another job for that evening. She would have got paid $10 an hour for the job she turned down. However, she would have accepted $8 an hour to stay at home and not have to work. Since she did indeed stay at home, she has lost the equivalent of $8 an hour, which Mrs Smith must now pay her.

Rabbi Yehonoson D Hool (pp The Institute for Dayan posted on 11/08 at 11:28 AM.


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