Q. My manager shouts, curses and uses bad words to make staff do what he wants them to do. Is this an acceptable way to get the job done?
A. Managers use many different means to motivate workers; they use material incentives such as pay and perquisites, positive social incentives such as praise, promotions and rewards, and negative social incentives such as disappointment and, occasionally, outbursts of anger. I will put aside for the purposes of this column the effectiveness of this technique; the leading management textbooks all consider this a counterproductive technique in the long run, but there is no doubt that many managers consider it a useful tool to keep the workplace going.
In order to answer this question, we have to study the special status anger has among human emotions in the Jewish tradition. We will start with the treatment of the topic in Maimonides' Code.
Maimonides first explains that all emotions and human traits have their place. We have spectrums of tendencies from anger to placidity; from conceitedness to extreme modesty ; from acquisitiveness to disdain of material possessions; miserliness to generosity, and so on.
At first, Maimonides makes a general claim: on all these spectra, the "middle way" is the best.
The two extremes distant one from the other in teach trait are not a good way, and it is not fitting for a person to go in them and to accustom himself to them. . . The straight path is the middle measure in each trait and trait, in all the traits a person has, and this is the trait which is equally far from each of the two extremes.
For example, a person shouldn't be petulant and easy to anger, nor like a dead person who never feels, but rather intermediate: he shouldn't get angry except for a great matter worthy of being angry at, so that [the subject of the anger] shouldn't repeat what he did. (1)
There are some traits that a person is forbidden to conduct himself in the middle way, rather he should distance himself from them in the extreme. . . Anger is an extremely bad trait, and it is fitting that a person should distance himself from it to the extreme, and teach himself not to become angry even on something that is worth getting angry about. And if he wants to threaten his children or household, or on the public if he is a public leader and wants to get angry at them so that they should return to the proper path, he should show himself before them as if he is angry in order to make the sorry, while inwardly he maintains composure, as a person who feigns anger when he gets angry but is not really angry. The early sages said that anyone who becomes angry it is as if he worships idols, and they said that anyone who becomes angry if he is wise his wisdom departs from him, and if he is a prophet his prophecy departs from him, and those who are habitually angry their life is not a life, therefore they commanded that a person should distance himself from anger until he should accustom himself not to feel even the most infuriating things, and this is the good way. (2)