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Aviva Rizel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. She specializes in couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a scientifically sound model that has transformed relationships around the world at rapid pace. To find out more about EFT, check out iceeft.com. To reach Aviva, call 347-292-8482 or email AvivaRizel.mft@gmail.com.

Ask Aviva: Nervous and Nostalgic

September 23, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, As the Days of Awe are fast approaching, my mind keeps wandering back to when I was a child celebrating these holidays. When I was younger, I enjoyed the holidays so much—the crisp fall days, crunching of the leaves on the walk to shul, hearing the shofar blasts, and dipping the apple in

Ask Aviva: Housemate for a Husband

August 20, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I grew up as part of a large, happy, healthy family and for some reason grew up very needy. My husband is not the gushy type and when he attempted to compliment me the first few times I brushed off the compliments. Since our first year of marriage, I can count the amount

Ask Aviva: OK to be Obsessed

July 31, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I have a problem that I can’t seem to get rid of. I guess you would say that I have obsessive thoughts. There are some things that I am always obsessed about (like if people like me and if I look ok), and there are other things, like if a tragedy happened, then

Ask Aviva: Cruisin’ to Work

July 23, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I am so lonely and down. Most of my friends are using this summer for leisure. They are traveling or staying in a vacation home, or taking a cruise (or two!) or taking cool road trips. I am not at all in their league and can’t afford any of that stuff. I am

Ask Aviva: Still Slim

July 10, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, Practically everyone in my life is pregnant except for me. I have been married for five years and have been trying to have a baby for four and a half. I have friends pregnant with their second and one just gave birth to her third! While I am happy for them, I feel

Tragedy in Israel

July 1, 2014, by

Dear Readers, It is with deep sadness and shock that I learned of the dreadful fate of our brothers, Gilad Shaar, Naftali Frenkel and Eyal Yifrach. I do not feel it is appropriate to give advice as I normally do in lieu of this heavy news. Instead, I am devoting my column to helping us

Ask Aviva: Modest and Melting

June 25, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, Summer is a real struggle for me. I hate the heat, and I can’t stand putting on all of my layers when I just want to be in a short sleeve shirt and shorts. This morning, when I was getting dressed and searching for a clean shell, my cleaning lady asked me why

Ask Aviva: Seasonally Scared

June 18, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, School ends this week and camp doesn’t start up for nearly two weeks! I am going to be with all four of my kids, who are all different ages and personalities and I am starting to get really scared. I had saved up over the past few months to take them to different

Ask Aviva: Click ‘N Pay

June 11, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I am finally starting to realize that I have a big problem. I seem to be a compulsive spender. I used to stop by a store on my way home from work just to pick up a little something. After a while, I noticed that my financial situation was becoming grave. I, to

Ask Aviva: Flustered Femme

June 3, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, Even though I mind my business, there is a married man in my neighborhood who makes inappropriate comments to me. The first time this happened I immediately told my husband because I don’t want to keep any secrets, even if there is nothing actually going on. He laughed and said, “Oh, that’s just