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About Face, About Facebook

March 30, 2011, by

In military jargon, whenever the drill sergeant commands his troops to do an “about face”, he’s instructing the formation to pivot clockwise 180 degrees. I only mention this because a favorite Jerusalem relative recently did an about-face about Facebook and commanded his “troops” (his children, who are my nieces and nephews), to shut down their

Matot – Delaying Marriage

January 18, 2005, by

The Mishna tells us “Eighteen years of age for the CHUPA” (Avot 5:21). But this is not like “Thirteen years of age for mitzvot”, whereby a Bar Mitzva is automatically celebrated for any 13-year old boy. A person doesn’t routinely get married right after his 18th birthday, rather this is singled out as an age

Matot – Choosing a Spouse

January 18, 2005, by

Last week we discussed the first chapter in Even Haezer, the section of the Tur and Shulchan Arukh dealing with the laws of marriage. That chapter dealt with the obligation to marry and have children. This week we discuss the second chapter, which discusses the ideal spouse whom we should marry. Seemingly, the main consideration

Pinchas – Meaning in Marriage

January 18, 2005, by

What is marriage all about? A first glance at the halakhic sources would give the impression that raising a family is the primary motivation. But a deeper look shows that Shalom Bayit, marital harmony between husband and wife, is just as important. The very first commandment in the Torah, according to Rambam and the Chinukh,