Aviva Rizel

Aviva Rizel

Aviva Rizel, MA, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Aviva maintains a busy private practice in Cedarhurst, NY where she sees couples, families and individuals. She previously served as the Clinical Director of The Five Towns Marriage Initiative. She is Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), the most effective, research-based model for strengthening couples' connections. Aviva is also active in educating therapists and laypeople about EFT. Mrs. Rizel and her husband, Meir Rizel, LMHC, enjoy co-lecturing across the tri-state area together almost as much as they enjoy raising their three children together in Far Rockaway, NY. To reach Aviva, email AvivaRizel.mft@gmail.com or call 347-292-8482 To find out more about Emotionally Focused Therapy, go to iceeft.com.

Ask Aviva: Nervous and Nostalgic

September 23, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, As the Days of Awe are fast approaching, my mind keeps wandering back to when I was a child celebrating these holidays. When I was younger, I enjoyed the holidays so much—the crisp fall days, crunching of the leaves on the walk to shul, hearing the shofar blasts, and dipping the apple in

Ask Aviva: Feet Firmly Planted in Place

September 16, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, My husband might have to move for his law firm job in order to move up the career ladder. It would be a huge step up in his career and a big boost to his ego. However, I have planted our roots in our wonderful community of where we are now and the

Ask Aviva: Tamed Tween

September 3, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I am 12 years old, the oldest kid in my family, and my parents are really strict and overprotective. They do not let me do anything my friends are doing. It’s so annoying because they never let me do what my friends do and they’ve always said that when I am older I

Ask Aviva: Dater with Disabilities

August 28, 2014, by

Hi Aviva, I am a 24 year-old girl on the shidduch scene. I’ve got all the great qualities, bli ayin hara (smart, pretty, funny, Torah-valued) except for the unfortunate fact that I have a very visible physical disability [specific disability not mentioned to protect the anonymity of the writer]. It isn’t something that will prevent

Ask Aviva: Housemate for a Husband

August 20, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I grew up as part of a large, happy, healthy family and for some reason grew up very needy. My husband is not the gushy type and when he attempted to compliment me the first few times I brushed off the compliments. Since our first year of marriage, I can count the amount

Ask Aviva: Invisible

August 6, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I’m an introverted, reserved person who enjoys having close friendships. I moved to a new neighborhood six months ago and haven’t made any friends yet. I walk down the street and I am invisible. I go to shul and nobody even bothers to look at me. It’s not that this neighborhood is unfriendly—everybody

Ask Aviva: OK to be Obsessed

July 31, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I have a problem that I can’t seem to get rid of. I guess you would say that I have obsessive thoughts. There are some things that I am always obsessed about (like if people like me and if I look ok), and there are other things, like if a tragedy happened, then

Ask Aviva: Cruisin’ to Work

July 23, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, I am so lonely and down. Most of my friends are using this summer for leisure. They are traveling or staying in a vacation home, or taking a cruise (or two!) or taking cool road trips. I am not at all in their league and can’t afford any of that stuff. I am

Ask Aviva: Still Slim

July 10, 2014, by

Dear Aviva, Practically everyone in my life is pregnant except for me. I have been married for five years and have been trying to have a baby for four and a half. I have friends pregnant with their second and one just gave birth to her third! While I am happy for them, I feel

Tragedy in Israel

July 1, 2014, by

Dear Readers, It is with deep sadness and shock that I learned of the dreadful fate of our brothers, Gilad Shaar, Naftali Frenkel and Eyal Yifrach. I do not feel it is appropriate to give advice as I normally do in lieu of this heavy news. Instead, I am devoting my column to helping us